Aaargh! Why is she wetting now??

[Poledra]

DD2 was toilet-trained during last summer, and did really well. However, since before Christmas, she has started wetting her knickers every day, and often more than once. Sometimes, she only wets a little bit then goes to the toilet. However, other times, she's clearly doing a full wee. I know these things often go along with major changes, but all the major changes (new baby, starting playschool) happened in July-September). She's just tutned 3 BTW.

Why has she started doing this now? And what can I do about it (apart from getting cross which I know is counter-productive but hard to restrain myself from doing)? I am losing the place with this

Poledra - could it be that you've both got quite relaxed about the whole going to the toilet thing so that you aren't maybe reminding her so many times? Or maybe she is just leaving it later and later as she has realised she doesn't have to go to the toilet the instant she feels she needs a wee - and just isn't judging it properly.

Maybe you could have a sticker chart with a sticker for each day with no accidents? Sticker charts still work with my 2 dds (8 and 4).

Hi Poledra going through a similar thing with dd1 (3.5) she stays completely dry at preschool (they have toilet sessions with all the children before going outside etc.) But at home she will dance around ( enough for me to see that she needs to go) but denies it, refuses etc, then have leakage when we get to the toilet, with much resistance!

We tried stickers but they didnt appear to be enough of an inducement and are now onto snack treats (chocolate mini mars etc (I was getting desperate)) We upped it to a treat rather than a sticker as she also started leaving poos to the very last minute as well and the skid marks were horrendous. We tried telling her off but with very little response.

Now if she poos in her pants we have a nappy for her to wear for half an hour ( I know many will disagree with this approach, but she saw absloutely NO consquence to her actions (she is a bright girl)) so we use the carrot AND the stick. A wee she loses her snack and poo results in the nappy. For the past week this has been working she's worn the nappy twice and had snacks several days. (before this we had 2 weeks of nasty skidded pants daily (if not more).

This is my way and I fully accept that some would not feel comfortable with what I have chosen but for us it is working.
Good luck whatever you do

Thanks for replying. I think it did start when we got relaxed about it, but now she denies needing when she clearly does (dancing up and down, sticking her bottom out). I think star charts are the way to go - I haven't had to do this with her so far, so I don't know how she'll react, but it's worth a punt.

Anyway, much calmer now - was so close to losing it with her big time earlier on, as she had weed her knickers, tights and dress and managed to get wee all over the bathroom floor when she finally made it there.

I'm also getting to the end of my tether with my DS who's just turned 3. He was really late getting out of nappies but once he'd got the hang of it he hardly ever had any accidents. Now all of a sudden, he's wetting every single day, sometimes twice a day. As a last resort I've put him back into a nappy which he's really unhappy about and I'm really unhappy about as well. I can't seem to stop myself from getting cross with him even though I know it's counterproductive. I'd promised him some new cars if he went for a whole week without an accident but here we are on day one and the cars are out of the window. What on earth am I doing wrong? My daughter was dry day and nigt by 2.5 and has never had a single accident since.

Poledra, it probably is because of all the changes in her life. Have you asked her if she would like to wear a nappy again and try again using the toilet when the weather is better?

LizinOZ, just 3 isn't late for a boy. DD was dry night and day aged two and a half like yours. But DS showed no interest in potty training until he was 3.3 and that's pretty common.

He is still in night nappies aged 5 and that's pretty common too.

Well, we had a better day today (she stayed dry at playschool and the childminders). I collected her and her older sister and we walked home (10 minutes). As I took her shoes off, I asked if she needed a weewee, she said no then went into the livingroom and weed on the sofa .

Othersideofthechannel, she most definitely does not want to wear a nappy - she's quite clear about that! I think we'll just have to keep going as we are, loads of praise for dryness and asking her a lot if she needs to go.

Thanks for all the advice.