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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

Am I expecting too much from nursery

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PanickedFTM · 04/06/2026 16:22

Hi,

For background, my DS is 2 years 9 months and has a speech delay. At the moment there are no other indicators of SEN and his comprehension seems fine.

I’ve been considering potty training for a while but knew it would be more difficult as he couldn’t tell us he needed to go. We finally bit the bullet this week after a few nappy free days in the heat wave and honestly I couldn’t be more proud. We started Monday with a few accidents but since then there have only been 2 accidents everything else on the potty.

We are basically just keeping an eye out for his signs that he needs to go and putting him on the potty. His bladder control seems really good and he knows he’s not meant to have accidents as he will try to clean it up himself without me.

The thing is nursery have made comments about “we’d usually say wait until they’re asking to go” “it’s going to be difficult if he’s not telling us he needs to go”. I understand that, I’d love DS to be able to tell me but I don’t think that’s a reason to leave him in nappies. I’m not asking them to take him the toilet by the minutes. Just to keep at eye out for signs he needs a wee (grabbing himself, crossed legs) and take him then which would be 2/3 times over the course of his nursery day. And I know there will probably be more accidents there than at home.

Has anyone else had experience with this? Am I expecting too much of the staff?

Thank you.

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MyNiftyCat · 04/06/2026 17:22

That doesnt sound like you're expecting too much to me.
I'd expect nursery and parents to be working together on something like potty training, especially if your child is showing signs they're ready. Consistency between home and nursery can make a huge differnce.
But nurseries are often juggling lots of childrens needs at the same time, so it might be worth having another chat with them to understand exactly what support they're able to provide and whether you can agree a shared approach.
On a slightly related note, a friend of mine recently shared a free school readiness guide. One of the areas it looks at is independance and self-care skills - I found it quite intresting as a parent:
https://www.schoolfirststeps.co.uk/
Hope you manage to get things sorted with nursery.

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