Won’t poop on toilet

[wanderingwillows]

Please help. DD is 2 years 9 months. Potty trained over Christmas and she quickly (and consistently) did wees in the potty/toilet but she absolutely will not poo there. No idea why. Still poops her pants nearly 4 months on.

What to we do? We’re always positive and encouraging, don’t scold her for going in her pants, watched potty training videos. She knows fine well that poo goes in the potty/toilet but just categorically won’t do it there.

I lined the potty with a diaper and that got it started. It was advice from a podcast by a pediatrician, iirc,

Same issue here. We are absolutely at our wits end. My hands are raw from scrubbing poop from everything.
The ERIC website has some resources, but harps on and on about constipation and fear of toilets, but fails to cover what we are experiencing - just a toddler who is extremely strong willed and doesn't want to poo in the potty.

DS was four before he pooed on the toilet. Every night he would have his PJ's and night-time nappy on, hide behind the sofa, poo, and have to be changed! No on-going issues - although he does still get teased about this!

Bribery? My son was coming up to age 3 and was potty trained, but then went through an infuriating phase where he would say he didn’t need the toilet just before we were going out. So I would dress him in his little snowsuit or whatever, then as I nipped off to get my coat, he wet or soiled himself. Or both. The health visitor thought it was an attention seeking thing, and said to just clean him up without making a fuss, and not to show it if I was feeling cross with him. She also suggested a reward for every time he used the toilet. You’d be surprised at how often a kid can pee or poo on command for a sweetie!

Some children really struggle with the ‘letting go’ feeling when they poo. If they poo in the nappy make sure you take them to the toilet and drop it in and flush it away so that they see where it goes. Social stories are sometimes a good way for children who are struggling to understand what they need to do - they break things down in small manageable steps.

The Poo Goes to Pooland worked liked magic for DS.

The only thing that worked for us was bribery. Sometimes its just got to be done. We bribed with sweets and then I told my ds if he did a week straight of poos on the potty / toilet he could get a specific toy. He was a bit older but worked a treat and was a lot quicker process.