We are nearly 9 months deep into this, and I'm starting to lose the will.
Our amazing boy turned 3 in February. He seemed ready to potty train last summer, so we cracked on and he did wonderfully at first. He understood within a few days, and was reliable enough to be out of nappies entirely within a month (except for nighttime). He struggled with poos for the first couple of months but is now pretty consistent with that to be honest, unless he's unwell.
Wees are the real issue. He has NEVER consistently taken himself to the potty or toilet for a wee. He has to be taken on a regular schedule, or he will hold it in and then leak until he wees himself. He won't say anything. He's happy to stay wet. If I ask him if he needs a wee, he will say no (even as the wee patch slowly forms on his pants). If I ask him why he won't take himself, he'll say he just 'doesn't want to'. He waits for me/dad/nursery worker to take him every time.
It's mostly because he doesn't want to stop playing. He gets really into what he's doing and will wiggle and squirm about to hold it in, anything but leaving his current activity.
He is an exceptionally strong-willed kid. We did reward charts and sticker, little toy cars, to reward him but he wasn't motivated. He doesn't seem to care about getting lots of praise.
We prompted more often but that just irritated him into resisting even more. Prompting less often leads to tonnes of accidents. Any minor change in his life, and he uses it as a reason to regress and pee himself regularly for weeks before going back to 'normal'. I have perfected the poker face and provide absolutely no reaction to his accidents. I make him clean himself up and put his clothes in the wash.
He is amazing with his poos and takes himself quite reliably, so we are probably well beyond nappies and I don't want to confuse him by returning to that.
What on Earth can we do to help him start taking himself? Anyone have experience potty training a toddler with a will of steel?