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Mumstheword1983 · 16/03/2026 08:32

Hi. Looking for some advice. My almost 3 year old was toilet trained in October. After the first week she stopped wetting herself and has been fantastic with only 2 or 3 accidents in 5 months. However she won't do a poo on the toilet. She has managed by accident a couple of times and I've rewarded this and made a big fuss. As has playgroup. But she hated doing it and screams and cries. I've tried songs, talking about it etc but she holds it in all day (mostly afternoon) until it starts to come out in little bits and we end up changing pants hourly. My mum and childminder have suggested going back to pull ups. Playgroup say it's normal and sticky with it. WWYD? I'm so reluctant with the pulls ups and I'm scared she will regress with the good work with using the toilet for weeing. She even goes independently at playgroup with no help.

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BollyMolly · 16/03/2026 12:42

Definitely don’t go back to pull
ups. That is just reinforcing the message that there is something to be worried about by using the toilet and telling her that using the toilet isn’t really that important. She has bladder and bowel control meaning that her reluctance to use the toilet is emotional rather than physical so there is no need for pull ups. They will just move the problem down the road.

The nursery is right. Your instinct is right. Stick with it.

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