Early waking for wee after potty training - what do you do

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My daughter potty trained in October and it was relatively quick (couple of days), she is 2y10mo.

She now wakes often at 5am yelling she needs a wee. If I get her up to wee at 5am she is up and that is the start of our day, she won't go back down. I have always had a not before 6 if possible rule. She no longer naps so it makes the day hell if she is up at 5. However if I don't get her up she soaks through her nappy and her sleeping bag etc.

She is still in a cot, and sleeping bag. We are looking to moving her to a bed, but she will initially still be in her sleeping bag. So I guess what I am saying is I don't have the option of her getting up and doing it herself.

What do people do? Get up and start the day at 5?

I took the side off the cot to make a toddler bed and replaced the sleeping bag with a small duvet, but she had figured out climbing out of her cot and it was safer that way.

I would be getting up at 5. I wouldn’t leave my daughter in bed needing a wee / left to wet herself so getting up would be my only option. Mine is a terrible sleeper so I feel your pain with this. Probably not uncommon.

Well her need to wee at 5 am is not something she can control, so that may change but on a timetable set by her DNA so no-one can know when that will be (it's hormonal). By 2y10m my kids were all in beds without the kinds of sleeping bags that they can't get out of themselves so didn't have your current dilemma. I don't think you have much choice re getting up at 5am in the situation you describe. I would be moving towards getting her into a bed and getting her to manage herself, and then read quietly until 6 or whatever.

Honestly just be very very happy that she’s cracked it now.

My eldest was dry in the day before 3. She wasn’t night dry until she was 8. It was stressful.

Maybe revisit the sleeping bag decision? If she was in a bed with a duvet you could put a potty next to her bed and encourage her to get up by herself and use it. Or do you think she'd still be up for the day after that?

Could you bring her into your bed for an hour in the mornings if she won't go back down in her cot?

Is she not in nappies at night still? That’s entirely common until they’re a bit older. However, I have twins and one of them refused a nappy at night so would wake up needing the toilet at night and early morning. At 2.5, he didn’t have the skills to go by himself yet. I ended up doing a ‘dream wee’ when I went to bed – just lifted him out of cot and sat him on potty. That solved it for us.

Honestly the solution is you remove the cot and sleeping bag and put her in a bed with a duvet so she can go for a wee if she wants. She's nearly 3 and is showing that she's growing up. Whilst annoying that she's getting you up at 5am it must be more frustrating for her not being able to go for a wee when she knows she needs one.

Sorry, just to confirm she is still in nappies and wet at night.. so often soaks through anyway without waking up ( I seem to be washing sleeping bags most days)... it's just mornings like this morning when I worry about her getting up early because she flat refuses to nap but will be dog tired by lunchtime. If I don't get her up she will lie in her bed and rest at least.

Just to also confirm, she's not crying or upset. She started just gently calling for me, but it was only a little later the 'need a wee' started.

Thanks for your replies so far. She has always slept so happily in her cot and never tried to climb out we have left her in it, but are currently looking at beds for her. She is a real wriggler at night and I am worried a move to a bed with a duvet will be too many changes and she will just wriggle it off, so I was hoping to do bed with sleeping bag until it's a bit milder.

I would put her in a toddler bed too and leave a potty by the bed with a nightlight on.