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Continue or pause after day 1? No accidents but withholding

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Mumliferollercoaster · 16/01/2026 20:03

We started potty training our DD aged 25 months today after showing signs of readiness for 2 months. She had a wee and poo on the potty this morning, no accidents, but after a hard poo (very lumpy - type 2 if you know the Bristol stool chart) she became upset and has refused the potty since. She was asking to “change my nappy” and insisting on going back into a nappy. I did this in the morning after an hour and her clearly needing a wee by this point and she weed instantly. After nap this afternoon she was nappy free, but hadn’t weed since waking so I put a nappy on at 5:30pm and again she weed instantly.
No strategies worked: weeing on a nappy in potty, her big sister using it, bribes that usually work (chocolate or miss Rachel!). Though it’s early days for this and we could persevere with strategies…
Would you pause given it’s only day one? My concern is her becoming more attached to nappies. Or persevere on the basis some refusal is normal. I’m confident she understands the sensations given she communicates prior to going, and can also successfully withhold both. She’s started macrogol today (have lots of experience with older DD constipation and withholding).

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BobblyBobbleHat · 16/01/2026 20:46

Personally I would persevere, but I would also not have put her in the nappy. By doing so I worry you have shown her the potty is optional. I think you need to be a bit clear that she needs to use the potty now and big it up as her being a big girl etc. No nappies except at bedtime or journeys for now.

jannier · 16/01/2026 20:50

You need to sort her pooh out she wont know if its pooh or wee that hurts yet so will hold it. The ERIC website is useful. Id Get her fluids up and keep at it

VikaOlson · 16/01/2026 20:53

I would persevere, loads of fluids (blackcurrant squash really seems to work!), loads of fruit/veg. If she's a bit constipated maybe some lactulose too.

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