Nursery put him back in nappies

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We potty trained our nearly 3 year old over Christmas - we did it over 2.5 weeks and by day 4 he had understood he needed to wee in the potty (poos a bit hit and miss but by the end of the 2.5 weeks he had done a few poos in the potty so we were feeling confident). We had even been on a few 1-3 hour outings and used the potty when out and about. He’s started back at nursery after the break - he goes 3 days a week. First week lots of accidents but had been using the potty with them. It’s now week 2 of nursery, day 5 in total without a nappy at nursery and they put him in a nappy early morning because apparently he was refusing to go on the potty / didn’t say when he needed to go and wet himself several times. He’s spent basically the whole day in a nappy, I feel like all our work has been undone. Can someone advise if this is normal? Or if I need to have a strong word with the nursery? I understand they have lots of children to look after and can’t take him to the potty every hour but it seems a shame when he was doing so well?

It’s normal and they can’t manage everyone having an accident every five mins. You need to reinforce at home and let the find their way at nursery. Send them in wearing pants not pull ups but don’t complain if they put them back in.

Potty training is a long haul, it’s never done in a couple weeks. The worst bit is the first month but even when they are mostly done there will be the odd accident for quite a while yet.

Best thing is to be calm, buy more washing powder and let it take its time. They all get there in the end, some quicker than others, but it’s not a race.

Thank you this was very helpful @Theonlywayicanloveyouespecially the long haul info - youre right I need to be calm and chill and stick up on more washing powder! Thank you

I’d be a bit put out, neither of our nurseries have ever done that despite DD having lots of accidents. I’d accept it if he was distressed about it but if he wasn’t bothered, I’d find it out of line. Completely agree about being in it for the long haul though it is a slog.

Agree with previous poster about it taking time - my childminder and I had a of compromise in that if there was an excessive amount of accidents then a pull up would go on - but OVER his pants - that way he’d still get the unpleasant feeling of wet pants but not completely soaked thoughts outer clothes and it was easier for the childminder to manage (I had twins in her setting) and less washing for me!

For various reasons we ended up with our DS going back into nappies at nursery for a short while. It wasn't too much of a big deal and didn't undo the work we had done. He understood the difference between wearing a nappy and wearing pants. We ended up using nappies on occasions when were out and about as we often had long trip on buses / the tube where access to loos (particularly when you have about 5 mins warning tops) is tricky and when he had day time naps.

It's normal for the nursery and probably done because they ha e a policy regarding max number of accidents per day that they will handle.

They could prompt him to try the potty every half an hour, but some children won't interrupt their activity to go, then pee a few minutes later.

It's especially hard if the accidents are poo - this takes a lot of time for the staff to deal with as poo can go all over the legs, socks, shoes, etc, and can also fall out of trousers onto the floor.

Thank you everyone for your super helpful replies - they’ve really helped me! Hopefully this is a phase which won’t last weeks and weeks.. taking it day by day and trying to work with the nursery to support him as best as possible! Thank you for the tips and insight!