WWYD on and off success

[Mummio92]

Hi everyone,
Really looking for some thoughts on what to do regarding our toddler and toilet training, particularly if anyone has been in a similar position.

DS (2y 7m) has been training for 3.5 months.
Did the bare bum method from Oh Crap book and initially seemed to crack training quite easily with a mix of self-initiating and prompting. He was overall doing well for the first 2 months being accident free at home and maybe 1 a week at nursery. We reduced prompting and he was self-initiating all the time, I was really impressed.

Then all of a sudden lots of accidents started happening at nursery and now creeping in at home too. But it’s so up and down! For example Friday-Monday he’s home with me and he had 3 no-accident days and then a day with 3 accidents. Then this week at nursery, 2 days with no accidents and today he’s had 4 wee accidents and a poo accident (previously unheard of when he cracked it initially). When he does have an accident it’s as though he’s shocked by it.

I just cannot fathom it? If it was a readiness thing then why would he have done so well initially?

His language is good but when you ask why he didn’t go to the toilet he just says “I must do all my wees and poos on the potty’.

We respond to accidents just factually “you did a wee in your pants, next time let’s get it all on the toilet”, no negative stuff but also not saying it’s ok.

I just don’t know where to go from here and I’m tired of thinking about his toileting so much but I’m loathe to put him back in nappies when he obviously gets what he should do and understands the sensations? It doesn’t work to go back to more prompting because he is just resistant and says he doesn’t need it.

WWYD?

Thanks in advance

Have you tried a reward chart. A sticker for every wee/poo In the potty then after 3 stickers pick a treat from the basket. We filled a basket with cheap toys snacks etc.Once the chart was full a bigger prize in our case a pair of much longed for princess shoes. Nursery were great and let us take the chart in so she could still earn her stickers there.
Good luck I know what it feels like to be thinking about a small persons toilet habits all the time!

I could have pretty much written this word for word. My son is also 2+7, we also started early August, and we’ve also had a very up and down time.

He is very slowly going the right way but often feels one step forward and two back. We’ve asked nursery just to focus on successes, not accidents, and he has a sticker chart there.

Weve not been able to see any real pattern in when he wets himself either. Dry all day at nursery today, came in the door and he almost immediately weed on the dining chair.

He’s starting to get a bit resistant to suggestion so I’m having to be really careful not to overdo it. He seems happier to go if suggested by daddy.

We’ve had some tentative success with stand up wees as a novelty. Praying it fully clicks soon.

No advice, just here to say we're in the same position. DS is 2+7 and it's so up and down recently. The past couple of weeks have made me think he's not ready because he's so resistant to sitting on the potty and toilet so maybe go back to nappies for a bit to take the pressure off. However, he can do so well some days and can go whole weekends being dry so I can't decide if that would put him back or not. Yesterday, he came out of nursery with a pull up on (gets one at nap time) and I left it on because we were in the car and spending time in shops - he asked to go to the toilet when we were out and was still dry at bedtime. It has crossed my mind that maybe he's ready but the resistance to use the toilet is more an age and stage thing, challenging boundaries/refusing instructions etc. Didn't know what to do.

Sorry I somehow didn’t get notified about replies to this but thank you for the responses! If nothing else it’s good to know others have faced the same issues. I feel like we are moving in the right direction now as he is mostly always dry at home (will even call in the night if he needs a wee) and has never had an accident out and about, it’s just nursery that remains challenging. He goes three days a week (mid week) and usually has an accident every day there if not 2. However he did have a couple of weeks of being fully dry everywhere and then back to the nursery accidents again. Can’t fathom it but I think I’m just going to decide to let it be for now and assume he’ll crack it in the end at nursery.