4 years old holding Poo and don’t want to sit in toilet.. but he’s fine with wee

[Xaini28]

My Son when was 2.5 years old I start him toilet training and till now he doesn’t sit for Poo .. he try to hold it or he do on his Pants … and I do everything him couple of times he do poo in toilet but now he’s completely say No and go in the corner and try to hold his poo

please any suggestions 🙏🏻

Have a look at the Eric website. https://eric.org.uk/

He is probably constipated or finds it painful to poo. See the pharmacist or GP for a laxative.

He needs to learn to flush, You could go with him until he gets comfortable to use the toilet himself.

My son did this after having a painful hard poo. He associated pooing with pain. Would run around on his toes to try and stop it coming but then he would poo himself. Always had to take spare clothes and packs of wipes out with us

Eventually went to gp who said its physcological because of what happened...and we needed to get the poo really soft so it just slipped out. So was on lactulose about 5+ spoons a day.

Took a good week of meds but it worked

There is a school of thought that says “better out than in” and so if he still needs a nappy or pull up to poo in, then let him, but only in the bathroom.

Not the same as going back to nappies/pull-ups.

He has to ask for it, use it in the bathroom and it comes off immediately afterwards.

This will at least get his regular again.

You can then work on getting him to sit on the toilet with a pull-up/nappy on to get him
used to sitting while pooing, then cut a hole in the back so the poo goes into
the toilet or put the pull-up into the toilet to
catch the poo.

The priority at this age is ensuring he poos regularly.