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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Issues at nursery - do we go back to nappies?

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Springbaby2023 · 30/09/2025 17:49

Started potty training my DS about 10 days ago using the oh crap method. He nailed it at home almost immediately and has been great going out and about. However nursery is a different ball game, he’s been having five or six accidents a day. I think part of the issue is they don’t allow potties and he also doesn’t have free access to a toilet and is a little shy.

I’ve tried talking to them about it but not much luck and I know it’s early days. This afternoon as soon as we left nursery he told me he needed a wee and did the biggest wee as if he’d been holding it in.

Not sure whether to give up and go back to nappies as he’s still young (just under 2.5) or persevere. He got really upset after nursery today so it seems to be affecting him.

Any advice welcome thank you.

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IdaGlossop · 30/09/2025 17:56

It sounds as though nursery are not supporting you as they should be. Remember you are the customer, OP, and redouble your efforts to have a sensible conversation with his room leader. If they don't cooperate, escalate to the manager. What do you think would help your DS? A trusted adult he can talk to? They will have had this issue before. Looking for a solution is better than five or six soggy/soiled pairs of pants.

Well done to you and DS for getting this far. It would confuse him to go back to nappies. Please persist 😊

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Springbaby2023 · 30/09/2025 18:07

I think trying on the potty before moving to the toilet would help, mainly for doing a poo as I think he is scared of that from what he can tell me and I think he’s then withholding which is causing the wees. But that’s a good idea too about one specific person maybe, thank you.

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IdaGlossop · 30/09/2025 18:12

Presumably potties are not allowed in the room for hygiene reasons. Would DS like to choose a new, special potty to use only in the bathroom at nursery? That might be an encouragement for him to ask his trusted person.

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Springbaby2023 · 30/09/2025 18:14

No issues with him having go go to the toilet to use it but at the moment they don’t allow potties full stop, just straight to the toilet which seems a lot for two year olds. Might be being biased because my eldest could use the potty at nursery and had no issues, it might not be that at all.

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NuffSaidSam · 30/09/2025 18:18

I wouldn't go back to nappies. This is the nursery's failing not your son failing at potty training.

I'd ask to speak to the manager or room leader and work together to put a plan in place.

Assisting with potty training is an absolutely standard request for a nursery that takes 2.5 year olds, they should be bringing far more helpful.

IdaGlossop · 30/09/2025 18:18

It is amusing me to be chatting with you about toilet training as it was the one thing that was troublesome with my DD. She always preferred the loo with a child seat on it and didn't bother with the potty. To return to your dilemma, does your DS use the loo at home?

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Springbaby2023 · 30/09/2025 18:29

@IdaGlossop He did once and he will sit on it but then always chooses the potty to actually go on instead (I think he likes to copy his brother but then gets scared). My eldest took a while to get the hang of the toilet instead of the potty from memory. I guess my fear is he’s not really ready as everyone seems to say if they’re really ready they’ll get it without issues.

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IdaGlossop · 30/09/2025 23:54

I think you have a case for talking yo the nursery about him having a potty by the side of the loo, even if he doesn't end up using it. The combination of you not being there, no potty, not knowing who to ask , is a bit much for a little boy. Fingers crossed that you find a way for him to carry on without nappies 😊

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 30/09/2025 23:56

NuffSaidSam · 30/09/2025 18:18

I wouldn't go back to nappies. This is the nursery's failing not your son failing at potty training.

I'd ask to speak to the manager or room leader and work together to put a plan in place.

Assisting with potty training is an absolutely standard request for a nursery that takes 2.5 year olds, they should be bringing far more helpful.

Yep.

They need to be more helpful, lots of kids need potties. Tis madness

toadstool32 · 01/10/2025 05:34

My son has been dry since 2.4 but only in the last month have we ditched the potty completely for the toilet. He’s 3.7.

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Springbaby2023 · 01/10/2025 10:39

Thank you everyone, I agree it does seem mad. My eldest definitely took a good while at home to go from potties to toilet, he’d often use one or the other but it took a while before he let us get rid of it totally. The nursery also used to have potties when he was there but they’ve since been taken over my a company and apparently it’s company policy not to allow them. It’s making him quite sad about going into nursery. I’m speaking to them today.

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