Is there a right way to do this? So much anxiety!

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Started putting 19 m/o on the toilet a few days ago, skipping the potty. She did a poo in morning and wee in afternoon on the first day, now nothing. Half the time she won’t sit still despite entertainment and just wants to get off. Been using the Huggies toilet training pull ups so she can feel the wetness but she doesn’t seem bothered by it when she pees in it. A couple of times I’ve taken her off the toilet, put her pull ups back on and she’s peed in it. This morning I took her after a few attempts already with no pee, she hadn’t peed for about 3 hours at all. Got in the bathroom and as I pulled the pull up down she was peeing so quickly put her on toilet but she was basically done at that point. Does this mean she associates the bathroom with peeing? Is this going alright? Do I get the knicker type training pants instead? When I say it’s toilet time she gets excited to go, she can say wee wee and knows what a poo is and everything. I’m so stressed about it all!

For me it was all or nothing. No nappies, following child around for 2-3 days then constant reminders for a few weeks afterwards.

Sweetie every successful use!

And no going back once you start.

They did wet the bed a lot for a while afterwards despite being totally dry otherwise, that is some hormonal thing they grow out of.

No method involves keeping the child in nappies, which is what pull ups are just with a heaftier price tag and some clever marketing. It’s confusing for them and very inconsistent. 19 months is very young, if you don’t feel ready to do it properly yet and it’s stressing you out then just wait until she’s 2. But if you do want to give it a try now then commit and get rid of the nappies except at bedtime. Whatever method you decide on (e.g. Oh Crap, 3 day method, bribery etc.) I don’t think actually matters that much. You just need to decide then consistently stick to it for a full week.

19 months is a bit young?

Id leave it for another six months and then try again.

I recommend you read Oh Crap! Potty training. I've used the advice in the book with both children to great success.

There's a online course called Potty Pros Academy that is for parents with children under 2 to potty train, that might be worth having a look at.

Just commit, no pull ups just big boy/girl pants, though might want bare bottom to start. I liked less clean up with pants though.

Try the 3 days and see how you get on. If no progress wait a while, maybe after winter to make it easier for you. They're not too young though, average potty training age has just increased with nappy effectiveness/marketing

Yes, and Huggies aren't exactly going to be invested in helping you quit their products :D

Having said that, I'd make your mind up whether you want to commit before purchasing your winter wardrobe, as I rapidly realised that all in ones and vests will make things trickier than necessary.

So we starting consistently offering the potty around 4 times a day at 18 months with 0 pressure to actually go. He still wore a pull up all day. We just celebrated and sang a song when he used the toilet.

at 22 months, after 4 months of consistent potty exposure. We did 3 days no pants and putting on toilet every 30 mins. He was trained in 3 days at 22 months. He was dry overnight too despite still nursing to sleep however we have had abit of a regression with that since he got a bad neurovirus a few weeks ago. Still great during the day though so I’m not too worried about that.

So I’ve changed to potty training pants and putting her on the toilet every hour. She has been a few times but still wetting the pants at times. I think it’s just a case of perseverance