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WWYD - refusing toilet at nursery

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LaVitesse2022 · 05/09/2025 13:37

I've been potty training my 23mo this summer and it's been going really well. He's now off nappies at home and at outings, will go on the potty by himself or ask to go when he's wearing shorts/leggings. There was never any issue or reluctance to use it and will use it also with no problems when we're out and about. However, at nursery he's been using nappies as they said they didn't have the facilities to potty train him there.

He's now started at a new nursery as we needed different days and they do have the facilities so I've asked them to start taking him to the potty there. But they say he's becoming upset over using it there (it's a small toilet, so not a potty as at home) and holding it and there was an accident or two. I think their approach might be putting more pressure on him than how we did at home.

I'm in too minds about what to do: the move sounded like a good time to start things from scratch ("at new nursery we pee/poo in the toilet") and I'm worried about derailing progress we made at home - should I just have a chat about approach? But equally, I wonder if we're expecting too much too soon and it's worth pausing for a couple of weeks to get him more adjusted there and try again?

Worth saying he's been adapting brilliantly at new place and playing, eating and napping well, being his happy self in general. It's just over the potty/toilet he seems to start having an issue.

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