2 year old sudden toilet/potty aversion

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So my nearly two year old has developed a sudden toilet/ potty aversion. She has had nappy free time for around six months now and been really successful with few accidents. A month ago I decided to take the nappies away. The first week or so she did great!
Then it all went wrong!
She absolutely refuses to go to the toilet when I ask- that’s fine she wants control. But now she will just wee on the floor constantly- worse at home than out to be honest. She can hold it for hours when out and goes to the toilet okay.
I got quite firm with her and told her she mustn’t pee on the floor and have been getting her help clean up.
Now she has taken to going in the bath or shower to wee, it seems there is a real control element but I have no idea how to work it out!
Any advice will be appreciated!

Following as I'm in the exact same boat and at an absolute loss!!

You're making your not even 2yo help clean their wee up off the floor? Sorry what! Shes not ready, and if you're too firm and telling her off you're going to scare her and put her off more.
Most children are around 2.5 when they become ready to potty train, yes some can do it before but it doesnt sound like shes ready. My 2.5yo twins had just one accident on day one when we potty trained because they were fully ready, nothing after that. If shes still having accidents now after months with the potty out, thats definitely not ready. Leave her be for atleast a few more weeks or you'll scare her and it will take even longer.

Yes she actually quite enjoys it so not a punishment just a natural consequence. She 100% knows the sensation of needing a wee/ poo but has just decided she no longer wants the toilet or potty hence weeing in a dry shower or climbing in the bath for it. She still poos in the toilet and has since about 14 months I haven’t suddenly decided she should use the toilet it has been gradual over months on nappy free time to get her used to sensations

If you think shes ready then go for it but for me personally an aversion to using the toilet is a huge sign shes not ready and you're going to push her away from using it by trying to enforce it. Also potty training shouldn't really be a gradual thing, they either can do it or they cant. As I said still having accidents after months of trying is not normal and again shows shes not ready.
There are so many things to look out for them being ready its not just knowing when they need to go. They should be showing atleast 3 or 4 signs. Just keep encouraging her and I personally would stop the cleaning up as it does sound like a punishment. You should try to be more positive 'its ok, mummy will clean that up. Just try for the toilet next time ok'.

Maybe let her choose a new potty from the shop?
Otherwise, she is very young, I would go back to pull ups for a bit.

We were following the advice from the Eric website which says to introduce the potty from infancy and it can be gradual, don’t wait for signs etc.
She has been back in pull ups most of the week it’s just frustrating when she was dry beforehand.
Also I don’t know if I am confusing her letting her wear a nappy again.
I was thinking of letting her choose a potty but to be honest she was always a bigger fan of the reducer seat on the big toilet.

I honestly didn’t bother trying my son until he was 3 and a half, because every time I mentioned it beforehand he ran away and got upset, an aversion.
Personally I’d leave it completely. Put nappies back on for a few months and stop mentioning it. She will get there.

there is a huge societal pressure nowadays to be potty trained really early and my personal opinion is as long as it’s before school then it’s not necessary to stress. My son has had 0, and I mean 0, wee accidents, and one poo accident where he was telling me it was too late. We went straight to pants. He had a pull up for a poo for a few weeks and now he’s mastered that.

agree with PP; potty training shouldn’t take months. If they aren’t ready they aren’t ready.

I was wondering if you got through the aversion as it has been a few months since this post and I’m going through almost the exact same thing. We’re doing a similar thing and potty training early, my nearly two year old is clearly ready to be out of nappies he hates nappy changes and hasn’t pooed in one at all for a few months - only on the potty. After two weeks with two accidents and 100% dry nights he has now been refusing the potty and waiting until he absolutely needs to go and has had two or three accidents in the past two days. I think the excitement has kind of worn off and just don’t know how to get through this so he knows like this is the norm not just a fun activity he can get bored with. So just hoping you could let me know if it passes?

@MerryReader it did indeed pass. Weirdly she loved going to public toilets first and then got used to going at home. I did bring the carrypotty inside so she could have the option of two potties or the training seat for an element of control but mostly I think we were struggling as sleep was all over the place in the summer she was half ready to drop the nap and chronically overtired.
I would say my dd did best when I didn’t react to accidents and weirdly the more she drinks the less accidents she has.

Thanks for your reply that’s reassuring, I’ll try power through and make sure he has enough to drink. Sorry you didn’t get any reassuring messages when you originally posted but I’m glad you could give me advice!!!