Specific question for parents of late potty trainers

[aliceisland]

We’ve got an almost 4 year old who frequently wets himself (5+ times a day). No problems with poos.

To be honest, at this point I’m not looking for the usual tips about sticker charts, rewards, reminders, making him change his own pants. We’ve been tackling the problem for over a year, so there’s nothing we haven’t tried.

What I want to ask parents who have been in a similar position is if you
a) just waited it out and it eventually resolved itself as they developed
or b) got some medical help e.g medication for an overactive bladder

Just not sure if we need to be taking more drastic action.

I think it depends if it's a dribble before he realises and then he finishes on the toilet, a full wee and he isn't aware, a full wee and he doesn't care, and whether it's every single wee or if some are totally fine and unprompted.

Not quite to the same extent (on MN a late potty trainer is about two and a half) this was my son until he was three and three quarters. And I’d say it’s only in the last two months or so he’s gone to the toilet without prompting. And accidents are much rarer but not unheard of. Usually poo, though. I am confident we’ll get there in the end, it’s just that for whatever reason it’s taken him a lot longer than most children.

I’d say it’s anything from a dribble to a full wee. He’ll come and tell us he’s wet and then we take him to the loo where more comes.

He will occasionally say he needs a wee before it comes out but usually the only way to avoid accidents is by us constantly taking him to the toilet to pre-empt them. At nursery, they don’t have the time for this, so he just has accidents all day.

I'd probably speak to the GP. Sounds like he doesn't like being wet (some children are indifferent to it) which then takes longer, and he's mastered poos which is normally the last to come. How old is he? As in when is he 4?

Yeah I think in that case I'd also be going to the GP and at least getting that ball rolling.

For my two, they had to want it, some incentive. For dd it was pants with characters on, ds wasn't bothered until school was on the horizon.
Maybe there's something he wants?