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DancingMama23 · 02/06/2025 12:20

Hi, I'm looking for ideas on how to change my daughter's habit/muscle memory for peeing and pooing standing up.

We're potty training and she can tell me that she needs to pee and poo but once she's on the potty, apart from a couple of exceptions, she just sits and sits and nothing happens. Then, when she stands up she goes within a minute, sometimes straight away. I'm trying to find a way of helping her to relax and pee on the potty. I've tried using Bubbles but she just finds that too exciting and she just ignores the running water if I run a tap.

She has good control and can hold her pee to get to the bathroom. So I'm just trying to work out how to change her muscle memory. Any ideas? Do I just persevere and assume that, as it does happen occasionally already, eventually it will get easier for her with time? Or are there any other ways to help her muscles to relax while she's sitting on the potty?

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SilentRefluxAdvicePlease · 27/08/2025 22:33

Hello @DancingMama23, do you have any update on your situation please? We are facing something similar currently. Thank you!

DancingMama23 · 28/08/2025 07:39

SilentRefluxAdvicePlease · 27/08/2025 22:33

Hello @DancingMama23, do you have any update on your situation please? We are facing something similar currently. Thank you!

We bought some fidget toys for her to play with on the potty. She was allowed to play with them only while sitting on her potty so they remained a novelty for longer. They helped her to relax and pee and now she's doing much better at sitting and peeing straight away.

Pooing sitting down was a little different. We started with letting her stand over the potty to do her poo. She found it easier to poo like that and she could relax. As she got more used to using the potty, she eventually got to the point where she was able to sit down to poo.

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TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/08/2025 12:38

This sounds like our situation! He knows he needs to go to the potty, initiates going to dance around the potty but stands up before he does it and pees on the floor (and is then happy to sit on the potty after to check for more!).

Weirdly he's clicked with poos, and although not accident free, he's got a few on there successfully almost straight away.

What sort of fidget toys did you get if you don't mind?

DancingMama23 · 01/09/2025 15:54

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/08/2025 12:38

This sounds like our situation! He knows he needs to go to the potty, initiates going to dance around the potty but stands up before he does it and pees on the floor (and is then happy to sit on the potty after to check for more!).

Weirdly he's clicked with poos, and although not accident free, he's got a few on there successfully almost straight away.

What sort of fidget toys did you get if you don't mind?

We bought a box of various little fidget toys for her to have some variety and one other one that was like a colour sorting game, which she was fascinated by. The links are below. I think Amazon has lots of very similar boxes of fidget toys so you can always see if there is a better one for you.

Chennyfun Fidget Toy Set, 36PCS... www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09C25SVBD?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Colour Sorting Toys for Toddlers... www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0DGX546F8?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

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