Resistance from daughter

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We are trying to gently introduce using the potty or toilet to our daughter who is 2 and a half. She knows what they are for, knows when she is going for number 1s and when she needs to go for number 2s but totally refuses either the potty or toilet regardless. Stickers don't work as bribes, nor does chocolate, nor does our being super excited, sitting on the potty ourselves, demonstrating with toys, showing her that her friends are doing it at nursery, literally nothing we've tried makes any difference. Should we be more forceful somehow? Or back off? Are we too early? Is this all part of the terrible twos exerting our will phase (which is impacting everything else at the moment so i wouldnt be surprised)? Any suggestions for things we can try? I'm so afraid we're going to end up being the family that everyone looks down at for not being potty trained!

She’s not ready.

Abandon all efforts and start afresh in a few weeks time. Don’t even mention it in the weeks between. Just give yourself and her a break

Have you tried taking her shopping and allowing her to pick some big girl pants? What happens if you let her run around with her nappy off, keeping the potty close by? I also had a book about potty training which my DD loved. If she's still resistant I'd back off and try again in a month or so. The last thing you want is for her to get upset about it and creative negative associations around the potty. I would keep it relaxed...you have plenty of time. Good luck!

We persevered with dd1 at 2 and a bit. Found out just how long she could hold wees for and she just completely resisted no. 2s. It was a long process. Dd2, we tried a couple of times and stopped we she wasn't interested. Just after she turned 3 she decided she did want to try and got it and afternoon, no problems at all. I only have my experience but do disagree with the 'you have to keep going once you start' way of thinking

Take her nappy off. She is too comfortable weeing in a nappy, she needs to realise that she will be far more comfortable, ie not cold and wet, when she wees in a potty. summer is a great time for potty training, fewer layers of clothes to negotiate (and wash after accidents) .

if it is any comfort my friend had a similar issue with her child who rubbed salt in the wound by remarking conversationally to her one day “ Did you know that when XX want a wee she sits on a potty do do it?” Grrrr.

My little girl was similar
i backed off, left the potty around and encouraged her to sit but never forced her
let her have nappy free time at home, took her for a wee with me, sat her dolly’s on the potty etc
left it a few months and completely went cold turkey with nappies after that and she got it pretty fast
anyone who “looks down” on anyone for not having a potty trained child needs to get a life
everyone is different
she won’t be 18 and in nappies
and no one will ever ask her at a job interview when she toilet trained - ignore those people
good luck
xx

Try no pressure, no nappy time for a few hours some afternoons. Make everything you read/watch be potty related. The Daniel Tiger Potty training episode was really helpful over here.