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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Chelswels · 17/05/2025 15:41

Hello! I just completed five days of potty training and I’m honestly wondering whether I’m doing something wrong or if I just need to be more patient. Monday (first day) was awful and she just peed everywhere but I expected that. Tuesday she went on the potty several times but I had to put her on there every 30 mins so I was bound to catch some in the end. Wednesday she made no attempt to get to the potty most of the day and i had to take her there. But by the end of the day she was going alone to try and go and would dribble wee and quickly run to the potty to finish it off. Thursday was half and half, she would go to the potty but she’d already trailed most of it there so nothing was really done until the last few hours of the day again where she would take herself off to go and try or would start peeing and then run to the potty to finish it. Friday she would pee on the floor and then run to the potty at the end when there was nothing left. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I didn’t think she’d have mastered it this fast but the progress isn’t even linear she’ll go from being great to not even attempting to get to the potty. I am giving her lots of positive reinforcement and praise and rewards when she goes and when she doesn’t make it or she doesn’t try I calmly bit sternly tell her not to do it on the floor. She fully gets what she needs to do, if I say “where do we go for a wee and a poo?” She’ll say “potty!” And if I say “if you get that funny feeling,stop what you’re doing and ….” She’ll finish “go go go potty”…she even wakes up and says “nappy off, no more nappies!” but then it’s like when she begins peeing she panics and seems to not know what to do so just says “oh no!” And then cries and either attempts to get to the potty or doesn’t. I’ve tried being calm, I’ve tried being stern (not angry but just so she knows we don’t do it on the floor), I’ve tried offering incentives and I’ve tried being relaxed and not saying anything or just gesturing where to go with my hands but it’s just not solid progress if you know what I mean? She gets so excited when she does it right though and wants to go wash her hands and choose a sticker for her potty, it’s just getting her to remember WHEN PEEING that she needs to run to the potty, because sometimes she’ll pick up on it and run and other times she’ll stubbornly say no as she’s peeing on the floor. Any positive encouragement/ advice welcome. I’m trying not to stress her out or get stressy but it’s so hard to stay calm and relaxed when she’s 100% smart enough to do it but just doesn’t

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Apollonia1 · 19/05/2025 23:36

Agreed, I think it’s better to just wait till they’re ready. Then there’s zero stress.
For night nappies, my twins only started to have dry nappies shortly before age 5. I waited till they had two weeks with no wet nappies at night, and then stopped the nappies. They’ve never had an accident. You can’t train night-wetting, since they need sufficient levels of the vasopressin hormone.
By waiting until they were ready, I avoided any stress/accidents with stopping nappies.

Other things have caused stress with raising twins, but luckily I avoided any stress about nappies by just taking the simple route and waiting till they were ready.

Chelswels · 20/05/2025 07:00

Another update: another successful day. She asked to go on the potty multiple times and three times she took herself off for a potty silently and did a wee. I knew she was ready really it was more I didn’t know how to keep it “ consistent” progress rather than up and down and random but all it needed was a bit of time. Thanks for all comments.

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Paintandpots · 22/05/2025 06:54

@Chelswels well done to you both! Lovely news! She is ready to be free of nappies (don't know why others are all nonono it's too early)
Imagine the savings! To the planet and your budget. :)

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