Still regular accidents at four and a half

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DS is four and a half, starts school in September and I am concerned he’s still having fairly regular accidents, both wet and soiled.

He did take a long time to potty train and was about three and three quarters before I’d say he was ‘trained’ but in all honesty he is very lazy and often won’t say he needs to go, often becoming furious if you push it. I’m not sure what to do. I am worried about regular and messy accidents at school which will be unpleasant for him and his teacher but I don’t know what else to do.

No advice as such, but much understanding from someone with a four year old DS with the same problem (completely sorted with urinating, but ongoing soiled accidents).

He has struggled for months with constipation and withholding, so now we are doing everything possible to resolve it before he starts school in September.

Some advice that has just worked for me with my 4.5yo DD (who has been wearing pants and not having poo accidents since 2.5 but wetting herself several times a week since then): try massively upping the fluid intake. A friend told me that they need to learn about feeling a properly full bladder before they can learn their bodies signals well. I added two extra drinks into my DD's day two and a half weeks ago and she hasn't had an accident since the second day!

My DD is the same! She started school last September and has maybe one dry day each week.
We started potty training 2 years ago.

I've tried talking to her, I've cried, I've shouted (much to my shame), I've contacted eric but they were no help.
The GP referred us to the childhood incontinence team but they refused to see her until she was 5 as that's when the bladder is fully mature.
Now I know that information I've just sort of accepted it. She goes to school with 3 changes of clothes each day, and seems a lot happier that there is no pressure on her.