Nearly 4 and still potty training

[MamaW123]

Hello, I’m exhausted with potty training, currently in tears on the bed after being at this for over a year and I’m stuck in a vicious cycle. My child refuses to poo on the toilet, she will withhold until her belly is the size of a watermelon and she will poop little bits 6 times a day. I can’t leave the house to go anywhere coz she poops on the way everytime. Park is a no, shops is a no, I am chained to this house and I’m convinced she’s just being stubborn!!,

I have tried rewards, I have tried taken away, I have been sitting next to her on the toilet for nearly an hour whilst she screams at me. I’ve been to the GP who has put her on movicol for the stool withholding which is now just making her poo soft so she poops herself all the time, so I’m in the same boat. I’ve spoken to Eric who told me to go to the gp, I’ve tried ignoring the problem, I’ve tried convincing her that big girls use the toilet, she will need to use the toilet to be able to go to school etc, I’ve tried what feels like everything, she is now nearly 4, and will be starting school in September and I’m just at a loss of what to do now.

the weeing is somewhat under control unless she is constipated then she can’t control it, so I’m doomed on and off the movicol, she has one a day but is still stopping it coming out when it starts.

this is having such a negative effect on the whole house and it’s driving me insane!!

HELP ME please

Can you take a week off work and just stay at home with her, cancel all other plans for that week. And then maybe follow one of the potty training methods for that full week. We used the 'oh crap' method which is essentially leaving them naked from the waist down at home so they realise when they're peeing etc. Of course your child is past that awareness phase, but staying at home like that means she's going to have to resolve what to do with the poo/pee, because there won't be any clothes on. Hopefully she'll see that using the toilet is the easiest and best way to deal with it over the course of the week.

Questions:

• is she using a potty or the actual toilet with a training seat?
• ours had constipation and the only thing that helped was lactulose. We gave 1 kids dose on day 1 and 2 (1 dose per day) then half a dose on day 3. It was much more effective than the laxido that the gp prescribed.
• is your child at nursery?