Day 1 - is it going ok?

[OhFuckPottyTraining]

Need some outside perspective! Day 1 with my 2y4m old - is this worthwhile?

He shows lots of signs of readiness. We started the day with a complete reluctance to sit on the potty at all, but now he’s happy to. So I guess that’s progress in itself?

wee 1: on floor
wee 2: on floor
wee 3: on floor but told me after
wee 4: on potty
wee 5: on floor but told me after
wee 6: on floor but told me as it was happening

I think this is going wrong on your part. I don't mean that nastily, just that if all of those wees were fully on the floor, not started and then finished on the potty, he needs more support than you've provided. The absolutely essential bit from training my two was to make sure I could reach my toddler and the potty at the same time. That meant following the toddler around the room with the potty. Not making a big deal of it, just if he's playing cars your sat next to him with the potty. And then move to blocks - the potty comes too. You watch him like a hawk. You'll never stare at someone so intensely. As soon as he starts to wee you say "wee goes in the potty" and very quicky get the potty and him in place. This is why you need to be able to reach both and be watching or you'll miss it, which is what's happening by the sound of it.
Keep going, he's doing fine, and with a bit more guidance he'll crack it. Mine potty trained at 20 months and 16 months - if they can understand what you are saying and having dry nappies for a couple of hours at a time then they are ready. Think of it as whether they are capable, rather than ready. You've both got this, good luck!!

@OhFuckPottyTraining I potty trained my daughter at the same age and the first day was pure accidents but as @Whatabouthow I followed her round with the potty and popped her on the moment she started weeing and told her that we do wees in the potty.

She cracked wees within 72 hours.

@Whatabouthow my son shows few signs of needing a wee in advance and if you interrupt him midstream he gets spooked and just stops. Clearly you are a much better parent than me.

I was asking to see if this was worth persevering with. As lots of people are telling me he’s too young to even bother with. By the end of the day we had 3 wee’s in the potty. Just wanted to know how long to keep going before throwing in the towel.

@OhFuckPottyTraining you've clearly had a shit day. I honestly wasn't having a dig, I've got nothing to prove, I was just offering my opinion on whether it was worth persevering to which I said yes, but with adjustments. The first few times he will get spooked and won't finish the wee. That's totally fine. Then he'll start to finish it. Then he'll give you more notice and you'll be able to get him there for the start of the wee.

It's a totally new skill. He's never done this before. And if he's your first then you haven't either. You're both learning.

And he's definitely not too young.

Can we support each other? We dod day 1 today too, well, from lunchtime since we had a prearranged activity in the morning.

DS2, turned 3 a week ago. Lots of sitting on the potty doing miniscule wee's. Had several on the floor too,but we told us straight away. Hopefully tomorrow is a better day.

I do remember wanting to give up after thd 1st day wih DS1,but the 2nd day was much better. We're doing the 'oh crap' method, from what I remember, we've lost our book in the 3 years since DS1 did this!

@TheLovleyChebbyMcGee yes please! I’m finding it difficult because it seems to be lots of “oh my child potty training in 2 hours” or “it’s been 8 weeks and my child hasn’t used the potty once” and not much in between. I was struggling to gauge whether a handful of potty wee’s but also many accidents was normal for day 1.

i actually had thought day 1 went quite well and i was really proud of him.

Oh Crap is pants off and watching them closely right?

Yep, naked from the waist down and watch like a hawk. I hate it as a I can think off is bare bums on everything. But it worked for DS1 so we're trying it again. We have towels out everywhere on couches just in case.

You progress to trousers only fairly quickly, at least I hope it'll go the same as DS1! Its to get away from the 'contained' feeling that both a nappy and pants give untill they get it.

We've had a few wee's on the floor so far today and a few in the potty, mixed bag really!

How's your morning going? We're not intending on taking DS2 out anywhere today tbh, but we fo have my folks coming over later so dreading the distraction with that. But we've run out of times to do this so just need to get it done

I’ve mainly got mine in leggings as he doesn’t seem to get wet so notice much when he has a wee otherwise (maybe this works better with girls 😂)

we’ve had 1 wee in trousers and one (prompted) on the potty. Crafty thing shat in his nappy first thing before I had a chance to get it off haha

how long did it take for your first son to “get it”?

We're on day 4 and I am seeing some progress! 2 days of nothing but accidents and shouting at the potty (though he does poo on the potty), but yesterday we had 5 potty wees (and still 4 accidents).

I agree that the idea they should get it in 3 days gets into your head and makes it stressful, I read an article someone on here linked to that said you need to remember they're learning something new and you wouldn't expect them to totally get walking or talking in 3 days. So I'm taking any progress as good news!

@Mufflette how old is your child? Are they your first? So great they’re making progress!!

agree the 3 days thing is really stressful. I’d love to know the actual average of how long it takes to get it!

I’m still waiting on the third wee of the day here… feels like he’s learnt some control since yesterday? (Is that a thing?)

@OhFuckPottyTraining he's 2 & 5 months, and yes the first.

Today he's at least coming to find me when he's had an accident so a tiny bit more progress! I think I'll keep him in nappies for nursery tomorrow and carry on at home til he's a little bit better at realising he needs to go.

I think it was a good week before my older one got it, so we're hoping DS2 is similar. We're in Scotland so got another day to try and get it before nursery.

We're still naked below the waist. Hate it, but it does seem to be working. Today has been a mixed bag, he's taken himself away a few times, but there have been several wee's on the floor.

We tried trousers, but 2 pairs were wet in 30 minutes so we've stepped backwards. Hopefully tomorrow will be better as hes back at nursery on Friday!

@Mufflette like me then! 2y4m and a potty training first timer 😁

we’ve had 6 wee’s and 1 poo on the potty today (most of which was initiated by him) so I think he’s getting it. I’m just anxious about him going to the childminder on Monday!! I feel like he’s doing really well but I know she will need some level of consistency which seems a lot for Day 6…

We've given up. 2 accidents this morning already, not noticing when he's wet, refusal to sit on potty, I don't think he's ready so giving up fir now and trying again in 2 weeks.

I don't think its helped we've had my parents staying and had really poor sleep. My parents can't share a room anymore as my Dad is so loud. He woke DH and I several times thumping about from 2 rooms away, plus DS1 was on a mattress in the floor and sold me several times too.

Plus DH just keeps asking about how I toilet trained DS1 like he wasn't even there and its really getting on my nerves.

2025 can get in the bin

Ah that’s a shame but must be really hard for him with people staying. Its frustrating to be spending a week of annual leave potty training rather than doing anything fun 😂

How are things going with you? Good I hope!

Thanks, There was a lot more going on that I won't bore you with and I regret giving up, but also, I couldn't see how to give it a go properly without going completely insane.

Now my parents are away, and DS2 is at nursery, DS1 is much calmer and playing nicely by himself. Plenty of time to catch up on housework etc

Yes good thank you! We had pretty much all our toileting in the potty yesterday :) although we’ve had an odd morning of wee withholding which turned into a rather distressing 1 hour sage before he finally gave in