Potty training almost 3 year old, refuses to say when

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Hi,

Looking for advice my son is almost three. I've tried potty training him twice before but he wasn't ready however he was asking to go on the potty last week and did pees and poos in it.

So I took the weekend to try and train him. He can go for up to 2 hours between pees. He doesn't wet his nappy when napping BUT since Friday when I decided to give it a go he will not tell me when he needs to go.

If I put him in the potty he will pee but if he's doing anything he doesn't tell me he needs to pee but he does know it's coming cause I see him cross his legs or do a little dance.

He knows its coming but refuses to say.

He goes to nursery 3 times a week so I sent him on Monday and they kept him in pants an dhe had 3 accidents but didn't tell them when he needed either. It'll be day 4 tomorrow wondering if people think I should keep going and he'll eventually tell me or if I should put nappy back on and wait a bit longer?

What would you do?

Hi OP. I was in a similar boat not long ago. I would keep going. No more nappies. He'll have accidents but he'll get there eventually. Bribing with Smarties helped mine.

I think this is pretty normal, so yes I would keep going for a bit longer. Lots of praise / chocolate buttons if he does say he needs one!

They do t say at first, just keep at it.

keep at it.

The advice used to be - put them on the potty at frequent regular intervals, 30mins to start with, plus when going out, to bed etc and then after a few days lengthen the gaps

We've been potty training since June and really it's taken until now for my ds to realise that he needs to go. He still has the odd accident here and there but we are almost there. Perseverance is key.

Once you start toilet training you need to ditch the nappies or it's confusing

Also I would say putting a nappy on really sets them back. A relative did this while looking after ds (he had one accident) and it was like going back to square one. They probably thought they were helping but I was irrationally angry. It was like restarting the process again.

Mine is potty trained around a month,we put him on the potty in intervals the first week then after that to reduce it accordingly etc. He csn still need encouragement when to busy but generally he says he has to go,or runs to the bsthroom

You must persevere, it takes time but if you keep giving up he will be in nappies much longer. It takes time and patience and when he is with you, you can keep reminding him and taking him to the potty. He will get it, particularly if there is a prize at the end, we did sticker charts! Once all the strikers were filled in - 5 days (with no accidents) he won a Thomas train!

Thanks all for your replies and opinions. What I didn't mention originally is that he does have a twin. He was potty trained the first time we tried. We had a lot of accidents in the first day then he just got it on the second whereas his brother just wasn't interested so we waited a bit more.

I guess it was also somewhat easier not trying to potty train two 2.5 year olds at the same time. But the first twin is really good now so 2nd one can get more attention focused on him whilst potty training now so we will just keep going this time.

My son was first trained end of July. Even now he will hold it, do the wee dance and refuse to go. Most the time he will eventually go, but there is often a dribble in his pants. From what others have told me, it seems like this is common with boys. Recognising that they need to, but just not wanting to! My son doesn't tend to have accidents at home but he does at nursery (luckily he only goes 5 hours, twice a week).

He probably doesn't "know" in the way you think he does. His dances and holding it will be unintentional.
The first step of potty training is training the parent to recognise the child's signs.

He dances, you take him to the potty, praise for weeing on the potty. He'll connect the dots himself and start not needing the middle step of you taking him soon enough. They all learn at their own speed.

He has to recognise that the urge feeling is connected to weeing.