Bed wetting/ still in nappies

[Winkle83]

Hi,

I know. I have read it can take a child up to the age of 8 to be dry at night. But I am starting to lose my mind.
the kid is turning 6 soon and is so far from being without nappies at night.

we have tried to restrict water after dinner, I have tried changing to mats but she sleeps through it all. And nappies are always full.

I know you are not meant to wake them in the night but wandered if should try. I have also heard about alarms to help but would appreciate any thoughts/ help. I have spoken to docs, it they just say, in their own time. Maybe I am impatient or am a harsh mum but it feels like we should at least be close!

thanks I’m advance

Sorry I don't have any experience but have just potty trained my 2yo, and I'm sure the book I read said if you want to night train you do need to set alarms and wake them and have them use the potty. I decided not to as mine is still small enough to be in a sleepsack in a cot and that sounded like too much faff, but if your kid is just in pyjamas in a bed can you not just wake them at regular intervals?

Or just stick it out with nappies til they are ready? Is it that the nappies are leaking and you're having accidents, or you just want to be done with nappies now?

Follow the doctor's advice.

Don't wake your child.

Just be patient and wait. They will normally refer after age 7 for extra support.

Are the nappies containing it or is the problem that it's coming through and wetting the bed?

My nearly 6yo isn’t dry at night either- tbh it hasn’t really occurred to me to worry about it yet- she just seems to sleep really deeply. I’m expecting her to get there at some point, but not worried yet. I think for some kids it’s a hormonal thing

https://eric.org.uk/childrens-bladders/bedwetting/

This explains why. Usually they produce a hormone to suppress urine production as they sleep so the bladder doesn't get full. If they haven't produced the hormone then they will have a full bladder which needs emptying. Some children are deep sleepers and so will wet the bed or the pull up. Supermarkets give over valuable space on their shelves to pull ups for much older children because lots of children need them but no one talks about it.

We ended up medicating Ds with the synthetic hormone Desmopressin for school residentials and holidays when we stayed in hotels but I wasn't going to medicate my child daily. He became dry at night around 10 years old.

My 7 year old is only just starting to have some dry nights (ie the pull ups aren't wet in the morning). It's so common - but no one talks about it because they don't want to embarrass their child. There is a reason nappies in their size are freely available!

Given it’s been six years I doubt there’s much we can suggest that you haven’t tried!

Our eldest was using the loo by herself a looong time before she was dry at night. Eventually we bit the bullet and put her to bed in knickers (waterproof undersheet). After a week she was dry, so it worked!

Thank you all so much, it is reassuring to know it is not something I can control and that i am not alone. I know every kid is different and i try not to be THAT mum. but hard not to compare to the 2 year olds etc who are sleeping through the night. It doenst worry my kid, but I just keeping thinking what if she gets invited to a sleep over etc.

Thank you again

My DS is now 7 and whilst she is totally toilet trained when awake, we cannot get her out of pull ups at bedtime. Almost every morning her nappy pants are wet. We've been on Desmopressin for nearly 6 months now. The GP up'd the dosage to 250 mgs and still nothing. We've tried waking during the night and whilst she would get up and pee, her nappies are still wet in the morning.

I know exactly where you are on this. I'm probably more concerned about it than she is. I know she will grow out of it but its just not showing any signs of stopping as yet.