Only wants to poo in nappy

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We started potty training DD (27 months) just over a week ago using the 3 day method. She did brilliantly and happily pood on the potty on day 1. She had an accident on day 2 and no poo on day 3. On day 4 she went back to nursery who carried on with the potty training (all good with number 1s), but left her in her nappy for at least an hour after her nap so she got into the habit of pooing then.

She now absolutely refuses to poo in the potty. She knows she needs to go and asks us to ‘change nappy’ - we’ve explained that she doesn’t need to wear nappies anymore and she can do poo poo on the potty. We’ve read books about it, modelled it (tmi I know!) but she’s been getting really distressed and going in her pants. This morning I noticed her going and got her on to the potty so that some ended up there -we then made a big fuss of congratulating her for pooing on the potty, which she liked. But she’s just had another accident in her pants and is finding it all very upsetting.

Im not sure what to do. Letting her poo in a nappy feels like going backwards and like it’ll confuse her long term. But it’s horrible to see her upset about it. I’ll definitely be talking to nursery tomorrow so they know to take her nappy off sooner.

Any tips?

I’d put the nappy in the potty so she can poo on

That plus rewards and phrase would hopefully do it.

then take her to ceremoniously buy kinickers before you get rid of them. Seeing the last pack of nappies run out can be helpful.

I know you’ve read a lot of books, but if you didn’t try poo goes to poo land that’s a good one - and from the potty she can help tip it in the loo to flush it home

We did the nappy in the potty thing. It worked! And when they transferred from potty to toilet we suspended a nappy in the toilet as they hated the 'splash' at first! Didn't take long to be able to abandon the nappies in both cases.

Definitely open nappy on a potty. We had this (don't tell my now 17 year old) and it seemed to go on for EVER!
Try asking kiddo to blow bubbles (real or imaginary) when sat on potty and (eventually) on the loo. It gets the right muscles working. We did this thing where my daughter blew a huge imaginary bubble and it chased and captured me in it so I was larking about trying to "escape". Like an episode of The Prisoner if you are old enough to have ever seen that. It made poo time fun.

And wine. For you later. You need that. Or chocolate. Or both.

Sending vibes of solidarity. This WILL pass but it feels like it won't.

Thank you all, I’ll try a nappy in the potty.

And @bellinisurge thanks for such a kind message! Never thought I’d actually shed a tear over someone else’s bowel movements 🤦‍♀️ Definitely calls for a wine!