3 year old will wee on potty but not poo

[Mumlifeandstuff]

Hello,

so we are on day 2 of potty training my 3 month on.

He has been amazing with the wees and today he only had a tiny accident but the rest of the time weed in his potty, he even got me from the garden earlier showing me he did one. (We’ve been bare bottomed doing it)

so we have had had trouble with poos… the first day he did a tiny poo in his big boy pants but didn’t want to sit on the potty so held it in. Then today he did the same again. Then all afternoon he basically was running around saying I’m doing a poo trying to stop it with his hands and like getting me to wipe it when little bits kept coming out but wouldn’t sit down (he pops standing up usually when his nappy is on). So I gave in and put his nappy on and he did a big one haha!

i feel a bit clueless how to go from here, do I continue with just his pants out and about and if he soils then hope he gets used to it and wants the potty.

or should I give the nappy when he needs a poo and take it off straight after to continue wees.

any advice please!

I know poos can take longer but I felt a bit defeated putting a nappy on today

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Sounds like he's doing brilliantly! Don't put a nappy on - he needs to know you've got faith in him doing it. Sounds weird but I'd try sat on the potty but you hold both his hands up with a bit of tension so he's almost braced?! You can practice the "poo position" before he needs one so he's ready. And then gradually get lower and more relaxed.

This is very common OP. I can't remember the exact timescales now, but both my boys took longer to do poos than wees on the potty. With my second it was quite a few weeks. My best advice is to go at your toddler's pace. Encourage and praise but don't pressure. It feels like it will last forever but it honestly won't. Like I said, I can't even remember timescales and it was only last year! Good luck.

It does feel overwhelming! I tried for 3 hours not to put a nappy on for pop, but he kept walking around with it hanging out his bottom trying to push it back in!

I’ve seen advice on here before which is getting him to sit on the potty while wearing his nappy to poo (to get used to sitting down). And then when he’s mastered that, loosen the nappy while he’s sitting down but don’t take it away. And then eventually transition to no nappy.

It’s great that he knows he needs to poo and can control it to some extent though

Although if you’re doing that you may as well do it on the toilet not the potty because then you’ll have another transition later from potty to toilet. And emptying poo out of potties is not nice. So much worse than nappies somehow.

He is doing great!

It took the next part of three months to get DS to do a poo on the potty. Most of the time he did it once his nappy was on for bed and sometimes it was just in his pants.

Annoying, but he was quite regular with his one poo a day so not too bad!

In the end we used the 'Poo Goes to Pooland' app which I think helped

I relented and put the nappy on for poo as my son was the same. He only did this for a week then started using the potty

Hi all,

so today we’ve had a regression, he went to my mums and didn’t feel comfortable doing it with her so after 6 hours of no wee she put a pull up on him.

has anyone had similar and any advice?

is he not ready?

or do I continue at home and pack pull ups?

Does he want a bit more privacy? How about putting the potty in a pop up tent or similar and her saying that she's just outside if needs any help?

@Springadorable - apparently he said he only wants to poo for mummy and daddy.

@Mumlifeandstuff aw cute little guy. He's obviously feeling anxious and vulnerable about pooing so I would work on getting him sat down pooing (with a nappy at this stage if it's at risk of becoming a big deal) and build up to pooing with different people without a nappy

@Springadorable Oh this wasn’t the poo today, this was the wees! He refused to wee with my mum after doing it for two days with us. Think he is nervous with my mum which is why she did the nappy xx

At three he's possibly old enough to want a bit of privacy when using the toilet. Can he manage his trousers and pants himself? I would think about either a) using the loo with a step and seat or b) putting the potty in the bathroom and leaving him to it while granny waits outside the door. My 2.5 year old preferred to toilet in private and would just call us when done to help wipe etc.