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3yo pooping in pants every day

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Disastrouspottytraining · 24/07/2024 18:38

We started potty training DD1 in March at 2yr 9months. She got the basics pretty quickly (this was our 3rd attempt after two unsuccessful attempts last summer and in the autumn). Wee accidents are maybe a couple of times a week now but she poos in her pants at nursery every single day. Nursery have given up trying to save the pants and they just chuck them away now but i just dont know how to resolve it.

She rarely has accidents on a weekend, but i think that's because Dh or i are just constantly reminding her to sit on the potty. We've tried stickers, chocolate buttons and nothing is working. She had a week at home recently due to illness and no poop accidents, but it all started again back at nursery once she doesnt have someone constantly checking on her.

I know it has been tricky for her because since March her baby sister was born and she moved into the preschool room, which is much bigger than the toddler room. But all i get from her when i try to understand why is "i like doing poo poos in my pants" or "i want to wear a nappy like a baby". All the websites seem to focus on soiling relating to constipation and she definitely isnt. I assume its all related to her new sister but i thought it would have got better after nearly 3 months. I just want to cry every day. Is there something I'm missing?!

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Hotgirlwinter · 24/07/2024 18:42

Put her back in pull ups, no point throwing away underwear every day and if you’re constantly having to hover over her to make sure she doesn’t have an accident then that is a sign she’s still learning.

I’d put back in pull ups, encourage her to keep using the potty / toilet for wees and keep trying to get her to poo on it but it really doesn’t sound like she’s ready. She’ll soon cop on when she realises she doesn’t want to be “a baby”, which is a stage they mostly go through in the mid 3s-4 years ime

LadyCurd · 24/07/2024 18:44

At home make her have potty time 20mins after eating to try and catch the poo time then.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 24/07/2024 18:45

My first thought was constipation/ backflow.

Grrrrrrrrr8 · 24/07/2024 18:50

LadyCurd · 24/07/2024 18:44

At home make her have potty time 20mins after eating to try and catch the poo time then.

This has worked somewhat for us, combined with a load of plastic tat as "poo prizes". Had a year of pooing in pants. Everyone said don't put her back in nappies 🙄 She will now do most home poos in the potty but still won't when elsewhere. Also said she wanted to be like her baby sibling. Do nursery make it awkward for her e.g. raking her own trousers down, getting clean pants out?

Disastrouspottytraining · 24/07/2024 19:21

Hotgirlwinter · 24/07/2024 18:42

Put her back in pull ups, no point throwing away underwear every day and if you’re constantly having to hover over her to make sure she doesn’t have an accident then that is a sign she’s still learning.

I’d put back in pull ups, encourage her to keep using the potty / toilet for wees and keep trying to get her to poo on it but it really doesn’t sound like she’s ready. She’ll soon cop on when she realises she doesn’t want to be “a baby”, which is a stage they mostly go through in the mid 3s-4 years ime

Thanks. Nursery really pushed us to get her trained before moving into the preschool room and my fear was that this would happen. Really terrible timing as she moved rooms just a few weeks after DD2 arrived - so much change for her all at once 😔

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Disastrouspottytraining · 24/07/2024 19:22

LadyCurd · 24/07/2024 18:44

At home make her have potty time 20mins after eating to try and catch the poo time then.

She used to be really regular - 5.30pm every day! This has also changed as well. But i can definitely ask nursery to encourage potty time after each meal as well.

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Disastrouspottytraining · 24/07/2024 19:23

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 24/07/2024 18:45

My first thought was constipation/ backflow.

She's really good at telling us when she is constipated, especially if her tummy hurts. Her poo is also quite soft, which is why i ruled out constipation? Maybe im wrong though?

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Disastrouspottytraining · 24/07/2024 19:26

Grrrrrrrrr8 · 24/07/2024 18:50

This has worked somewhat for us, combined with a load of plastic tat as "poo prizes". Had a year of pooing in pants. Everyone said don't put her back in nappies 🙄 She will now do most home poos in the potty but still won't when elsewhere. Also said she wanted to be like her baby sibling. Do nursery make it awkward for her e.g. raking her own trousers down, getting clean pants out?

Oh gosh, a year sounds awful. Poor you! Not sure on the nursery procedure - i will ask. The poo prizes sound like a good idea - i can sort this over the weekend!

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