How to potty train when at nursery

[MissScarletInTheBallroom]

Hello,

We have tried to potty train my DS a couple of times so far, without much success. He recently turned 3.

Part of the problem is that we both work full time so we don't have long stretches of time at home with him to get the hang of it. The other part of the problem is that he gets very bored and upset when we don't go out, so staying at home for days on end just doesn't work. Every time I've taken a few days off work to try and crack it, we've had some progress on the first day and then he just wants to go and play outside.

I'm considering taking a week off to stay at home with him but I'm not sure whether he'll get the necessary support from nursery to not go back to nappies afterwards, and it will be such a waste of holiday if I take the time off for no reason because we end up going back to the beginning afterwards.

He is leaving nursery at the beginning of August and starting school in September (not in UK), so he absolutely needs to be potty trained by then.

Nursery staff have told us it's very common for kids to just get the hang of it in the couple of weeks before they start school, but I'm starting to suspect they're just saying that so it's not their problem.

We're on holiday for the last two weeks before he starts school and I don't want it to be ruined by potty training so ideally I want him to have got the hang of it by mid August.

Any advice gratefully received!

We had the same dilemma. For us, we managed to crack it over the 4 day easter weekend, but if that hadnt worked, i was going to take DD out of nursery for a week.

We just didnt give nursery a choice - i sent her back after the long weekend with pants on and about 5 pairs of spares knickers and trousers in her bag and told them nappies only at naptime. She still has accidents now (although that could partly be a bit of regression around the recent arrival of her new baby sister) but they are great about dealing with it and we all just keep up lots of praise and rewards on the days when there are no accidents.

Do you have a garden? We avoided the issue of not really going out by spending loads of time in the garden, with the potty outside with us.

Thanks for your reply!

No unfortunately we don't have a garden, no outdoor space at all. Our nursery provide nappies (included in the fees) so we can't really do this without their support. I'm planning to talk to them when I pick him up later.

We just let our child work out what to do we didn't take any time off work and then let nursery do their own routine

Would it be possible to move everything out of the living room for a few days to make a big open play space, and stop your furniture getting peed on. Trips to the park are probably fine as long as you bring spare cloths (and the potty if there's not public toilets), no ones going to mind a toddler having an accident outside.

So, I'm actually not that worried about the furniture being peed on because he can pee and poo in the potty. If he is naked from the waist down and playing in the living room and the potty is there, he will use it rather than pee anywhere else.

The problem is that after about three hours of this he has a meltdown because he wants to put clothes back on and go outside. And then he just soils himself.

Right now every time we suggest he sits on the potty he refuses and says he doesn't want to. I didn't want to push it but now we are running out of time.

If we let nursery do their own routine they will probably just put him back in nappies.