My DS was 3 in January and still not toilet trained. I first tried last summer when he was about 2.5 but had no luck, he got really upset at the idea of it, so I left it for a bit to try again later. I’ve been trying on and off since then, most of the time he’s simply refused to not have his nappy on, getting very upset, point blank refusing to do anything until I put a nappy back on him. I’ve been trying to wait until he’s ‘ready’ rather than force him. I don’t want it to become another huge battle. he can be so stubborn and strong willed, and most of the advice is that it’ll be easier once they’re willing and ready themselves.
I thought I had a bit of a breakthrough this week. He was happy to be nappy free and tried sitting on the potty lots. He had a few accidents but didn’t manage to do anything in the potty. I was so happy we seemed to be making progress and he was willing to at least try. Until this afternoon. He said he needed a wee so I said ‘great, let’s sit on the potty’ to which he screamed and cried that he wanted a nappy. I tried so hard but am ashamed to say I relented. Like I said before, I really don’t want this to be another battle and thought maybe he isn’t ready after all?
I feel so deflated as I thought we were getting somewhere and this was the start of our potty training journey! I feel
so embarrassed if anyone notices he’s still in nappies. I feel like I’m being judged as not being a very good parent. But it’s not like I haven’t or aren’t trying. I’m getting polite pressure from nursery and my Mum, who both think he should be out of nappies by now. I just don’t know what’s best to do. Wait a bit longer until he’s more willing? Or just persist and go cold turkey with the nappies, and deal with the screaming fits? Help, please!