Help! DD won't part with nappy,

[blackpoolhouse]

I have a DD who is 2.5years I was going to potty train this summer. We had an accident in the bath, where she did a poop and freaked out. Since then she hates having her nappy off! Even in the bath! I have tried letting her have it on, trying to tussle her in without it. She just seems really scared to be without it incase she has an accident I suppose. What doesn’t help she is in nursery full time as we both work full time and lots her her class mates are potty training. The other day I was trying to cajole her in the shower with me and she told me when I had no clothes on don’t wee on the floor mummy, that’s obviously something I’ve never said to her so must be nursery. She just seems to have this fear of an accident. It’s hard to know if she is ready to potty train either, she still gets wee wee and poo mixed up. She doesn’t tell us when she’s done a poo either. It’s been almost a month now and really getting to the end of my tether with it. I feel like maybe we missed the window according to the crap potty training book but it didn’t seem like she was ready!
Any advice would be great.

She doesn't sound ready. Just leave it for a couple of months and then try again. Tried a couple of times with DD and she just wasn't ready. Week before she turned 3 tried again and it only took a few days.

I agree with pp. We tried before nursery, just to see and dd wasn’t ready. Didn’t get a single success, but I wasn’t concerned as she was v young. We stopped and after a while carried on chatting about when she was a big girl, she could use the potty and reading books about it (Pirate Pete because they love the button). I’d mention that children at nursery school were doing it and when she was ready she could try too. She then asked to do it and was ready. Since then, almost every wee on potty and now number twos as well. For the number twos we reminded her that she felt the same about doing wees on the potty and just gave no pressure but offered or, when she went, said ‘won’t it be lovely when you can go on the potty, as we won’t have to stop playing for so long to clean you up’ etc. She’s now managed to do both. The only accidents are car journeys, so we use pull ups for those (older sibling so number of clubs we drive to).

i agree, she’s just not ready. DD is fiercely independent. She wasn’t ready for ages, she would refuse to try the potty or toilet. We just offered regularly for a while with no pressure. Suddenly one day (I think she was 2y 8 months) she used the potty at pre-school and with my relative. I tried potty training her later that week and she was day time trained within a week. Your DD will let you know when she’s ready. Trying too early will only cause you both stress.

My daughter also 2.5 is very similar. She doesn't even mention when she's done a wee. If she does a poo I ask her and she says no and refuses to change her nappy. Bribery usually helps! She has a potty and will sit on it fully clothed and says she's doing a wee. I'm just going to wait a bit longer and perhaps leave the nappy off (hard floors) and see what happens.