Child Doesn't Care if she has an Accident

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We started potty training DD, who is aged 2 years 8 months, on Monday. We thought she was ready because she kept asking to use the potty, and can use it well.

The first day, everything was great. She was excited and asked to use the potty a hundred million times. Then suddenly, she didn't seem to care anymore.

She will use the potty, but only if we initiate it. She doesn't care if her Huggies pull-ups are wet. She doesn't care if she has an accident. Earlier I asked her how she feels when she has an accident, and she said, "I feel happy." She also keeps peeing on the step we have for her to reach the sink. She told me she does this on purpose because she likes peeing on there.

While I don't want to create shame around accidents, I feel like it would be so much easier if she didn't like them! We've tried to motivate her with books and a sticker chart and she loves them, but the potty is still an optional extra for her.

I'm now doubting myself and thinking that, if she doesn't mind being wet, maybe she's not ready. Should I give up? Or is this normal?

She's very young. Look at the Eric website, they have lots of information about toilet training. I've heard a tip for a child to just wear pants, or pants under a pull up so that they actually get wet when they wee. As pull ups absorb it they won't understand that they've wet

Have you thought about changing to reusable pull-ups? The disposables are almost too comfy because of all the high tech wicking materials.

Probably if she recognises the urge to go to the toilet she should be in big girl pants- sorry if she is already just you mentioned Huggies pull ups.

If not done already go to the shop - get them together with nice characters on that she likes and wants to look after. When trousers and pants are wet get her to help with putting them in the washing and explaining that we need to keep clothes clean. If she likes peeing on a step remove it for now and lift her up for hand washing to break that habit. Sticker after every wee in the toilet and once she gets X stickers get a small treat. Keep going :)

Thank you all for your encouragement- I'll keep going.

Interesting points about the pull-ups. We've been using the disposable ones which are supposed to feel wet, but DD either doesn't notice or doesn't care. So I'll probably switch to either the re-useable pull-ups or big girl pants. She hates getting her clothes wet when drinking or hand washing, so hopefully that will help.

Give that a try and see how it goes :) mine still did have accidents - he wansnt an easy one! But when in big boy pants he recognised the accident more and while we didn't villanise it he found it inconvenient having to change out of all his clothes and put new ones on. We also tried really hard in that stage to get him doing his clothes himself so it was something a bit time consuming and labourious for him if he needed to stop play to start taking most of an outfit off and in the washing, and putting another one on. Seemed to help in him making more of a personal effort to stay dry/clean

Please help been trying to potty train my son since last year on/off…
I take him to the toilet every 30 minutes I’ll ask him every 15 minutes if he needs to go he’ll say no he doesn’t need it but when I take him he goes for pee/poop. If I take him 5 minutes late he’ll do it in his potty training pants and tell me after he’s done it but NEVER tells me before he needs it. I don’t know how to get him to tell me before instead of after he’s done it in his pants. I’m willing to pay someone to train him 😩. One of the patients told me about this website so I signed up straightaway can some please please help me how do I get him to tell me before he that needs to go to the potty.

Agree, ditch the pull ups, bare bottom or normal clothes. With mine it was a slow process but they did eventually learn that wetting yourself and having to stop for a wash and clothing change took longer than using the potty.

The thing is I live with my parents or else I would ditch the potty training pants and let him run around free, being a single mother and working doesn’t really help I only get to do the weekends which isn’t really ideal. I’m in a desperate need also he starts school full time in September so worried they won’t take him on until he isn’t potty trained.

Hot summer day in the garden is the classic solution. Take the potty and loads of toys out. Get comfortable outside for the day and see what happens. If you can take a week's leave (or cobble together a week by your and your parents having different days off), so much the better.

I am thinking of taking a week off should I wait till the weather gets a bit better, and give it another try. Before I pay someone to help me do it 😩🥴