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Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

We seem to be going backwards!

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sunshinecitrus1 · 16/01/2024 12:43

I feel like I am losing my mind with potty training!

My toddler is 29 months old and has been giving signs for a while that he is ready for potty training so we thought we’d give it a go.

He has been running around commando since Thursday. On the first few days, I felt like there was progress… Every time he weed on the floor, I’d try and get him to the potty mid wee. I’ve lost track how many times I’ve said “you weed on the floor, wee should be in the potty!” I’d then clean it up and be done with it until the next time. We had a few wees in the potty and made a big deal out of it every time and praised him with lots of hi-5’s and flushed it away in the “big toilet”.

We are now on Day 6 and I am feeling really deflated. We are at a stage where he says “wee”, sprints over to the potty, sits on it for literally a second and then gets back up and wees absolutely everywhere! I try and encourage him to sit on the potty for a little longer, he won’t have any of it… And when I do manage it by reading books or other activities, we rarely get a wee… And then he gets up and wees on the floor!

He’s also had a few poos over the last 6 days, the first 2 I managed to catch into the potty (he poos standing up, not yet sat on the potty to do one) and we praised him loads and again, flushed it away in the big toilet. The last couple of days he has been quite constipated and has cried after the last two. You can tell before he goes that it is causing him stress and he is worried about going as he frantically runs back and forwards. I know constipation is common at the beginning but obviously this is adding to his resistance as well because I’m guessing it isn’t exactly comfortable going right now.

He’s resisting and I’m not quite sure why the setback. I have been as calm and patient as I can, tried everything to make it “fun”, maybe I’ve put him under too much pressure over the last few days… I think sometimes we don’t realise the pressure we put our little ones under. The fact he says wee and runs to the potty I know that he has made that connection but he hasn’t connected the dots with sitting there waiting for the wee yet. I am going to continue until Friday so that we’ve done a good full week and if no progress, I think it’s time to stop and come back to it again at another time.

I am not expecting anyone to find me a solution as I know every child is different but your own experiences are welcome and anyone that is in the same boat… I’d love to hear from you as I have cabin fever being stuck in the house for days, it will be nice to know I’m not alone!

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NuffSaidSam · 16/01/2024 12:48

But you're not going backwards! You've made a massive step forwards. At the start he had no idea and you were catching wees. Now he knows, tells you and goes to the potty. The last step isn't there yet, but you've definitely made progress. Stick with it.

How is he with sitting on the big toilet?

sunshinecitrus1 · 16/01/2024 15:10

Thank you for your reply. I guess it just doesn’t feel like progress at the moment because no matter how many times we encourage the potty, we get the same outcome but I guess it takes time. And the fact he knows to go to the potty for a wee is a good sign and definitely progress. We haven’t tried him on the big toilet yet, may be worth a go!

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sunshinecitrus1 · 16/01/2024 16:37

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NuffSaidSam · 16/01/2024 19:02

I'd definitely let him have a try on the big toilet. You could also try getting one of those things that you put in the toilet for little boys to aim at (or put some Cheerios down there) and see how he gets on standing up. If his Dad is around that might be a nice father/son activity!

NuffSaidSam · 16/01/2024 19:03

Also, get him to blow bubbles while he's on the potty (either with a straw in water or actual bubbles), helps them 'let go'.

bea19 · 16/01/2024 20:39

Sending solidarity - we are in a very similar position. Our DS (22 months) had been telling us when he needed a poo and wanting to use the potty for a while so we decided to go for it to avoid inconsistencies (before we were letting him use the potty when he told us he needed it, but not prompting him, and he was still in nappies). Started on Saturday, bare bummed, tiny wees every half an hour or so. They were all on the floor (which I was expecting, that was fine). Poos have all been in the potty, and he now goes much longer between wee accidents (we’re on day 4) but bar two wees unprompted (one each on day 2 and day 4) and a couple when I took him when I was going, he has always started weeing before he gets to the potty. Then when we spot that and move him quickly to the potty, most of the time he wants to get off almost instantly to wave bye bye to the wee - which he hasn’t yet had, just the tiny bit on the floor - and inevitably then has a wee on the floor shortly after. Going to give it a bit longer but wondering if we have started too soon…

NoKnit · 21/01/2024 17:03

I am curious as to what signs you had that he was ready? Because clearly constantly weeing on the floor is a sign that he isn't ready I think? He might have some idea of the control required but he can't fully do it yet can he?

I'd personally save myself the stress go back to Nappies and try again closer to the summer when it is easier.

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