Oh crap training - should we give up?

Fran92 · 2024-01-14T10:39:22+00:00

Day 8, block one went well started to self initiate so went to block two and now when we prompt every 2 hours or so we ‘try’ and 10/15 mins later will have an accident, knows it happening but no attempt to try and go or ask for potty. do I carry on or stop?

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Fran92 · 14/01/2024 10:43

Oh and we’re 2.5. Will happily sit on at times and we have some notice for the poo so that’s always been on the potty but won’t sit and just relax enough for a wee. Tried talking, bubbles etc.

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SuperDopper · 14/01/2024 10:47

Block 2 - was that when they had the clothes on?

Ours were a similar age and they got hang of it wearing no clothes within two days. But it felt like they went back to square 1 once we moved on to wearing clothes and it took 2-3 days before they started using the potty for peeing, and maybe a week for poos.

Cindy1802 · 14/01/2024 10:48

We didn't use the oh crap method, but what I will say is don't rush it. We tried when my son was just under 2.5 and it was stressful, and didn't feel like it was working, so called it quits. Then we tried a few months later and it just clicked from the start- from my experience, you'll know when they are ready to train a day or 2 into training. I really won't be rushing it with my 2nd when the time comes, it's so much better to just do it when they are ready than induce unneeded stress on everyone.

SuperDopper · 14/01/2024 10:59

Cindy1802 · 14/01/2024 10:48

We didn't use the oh crap method, but what I will say is don't rush it. We tried when my son was just under 2.5 and it was stressful, and didn't feel like it was working, so called it quits. Then we tried a few months later and it just clicked from the start- from my experience, you'll know when they are ready to train a day or 2 into training. I really won't be rushing it with my 2nd when the time comes, it's so much better to just do it when they are ready than induce unneeded stress on everyone.

Yes, good point. DS was definitely ready and had been for some time. He wasn’t quite 2.5 yet but he showed a lot of signs around being ready and also interest around using the potty / toilet.

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Fran92 · 14/01/2024 11:55

Ah ok, we got it within 3 days block one so on day 5 in block 2 and just got resistance and accidents. She’s been a bit constipated so held it in which I don’t think has helped by holding that in and then wee. Maybe give it another few days and decide.

we had signs before starting but maybe left it a few weeks too late as I had covid so delayed it

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SuperDopper · 14/01/2024 12:22

Ah if that’s the wearing clothes section, then we definitely felt as though he hadn’t made any progress. Friends who also followed Oh Crap had the same issue - gets the hang of it when wearing no clothes but back at square one once wearing clothes.

I think it confuses them when they wear clothes and they have the feeling of support again, so they think it’s fine to go in their clothes, but then soon learn to go to the potty again.

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Fran92 · 14/01/2024 12:37

Thanks @SuperDopper will keep going!

Just had progress in that she’s told me she needed a poo wanted me to sit with her as it’s sore so I sang a few nursery rhymes and she was proud she had done one.

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Fran92 · 22/01/2024 13:07

Thought I’d report back, on day 16 now and absolutely nailing it, no accidents for 4 days or so and the couple of days before that were ones that had started but LO realised, stopped it and got to the potty all by themselves, so glad I didn’t give up.

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SuperDopper · 22/01/2024 13:33

Aww amazing! Had been meaning to ask you how you’re getting on, so I’m pleased it’s going well! And thank you for the update!

Bey · 17/09/2024 20:39

Fran92 · 22/01/2024 13:07

Thought I’d report back, on day 16 now and absolutely nailing it, no accidents for 4 days or so and the couple of days before that were ones that had started but LO realised, stopped it and got to the potty all by themselves, so glad I didn’t give up.

I know this is an old thread so apologies for posting but hoping it's not too old that you're still around. Currently following the oh crap method doing great with no clothes but unfortunately has to wear clothes at nursery and it's completely set us back. How did you get through this bit? Would appreciate any tips x

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Fran92 · 18/09/2024 08:08

@Bey hi,

so I actually kept mine off nursery for a few days to wear clothes at home, started with long dresses and then went out the house in joggers and no underwear and just went for it. Had a couple of accidents but she hated being wet so that helped in a way.

nursery were fab though and allowed joggers and no underwear and took her every hour or so along with some others and then after a week we went underwear and apart from a few where it had started but held some in or an accident in the sense of not pulling down well it was ok.

i think the key is getting nursery on board and getting them to just take them and try and if it’s with their friends that helps.

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Bey · 18/09/2024 08:57

Thank you so much for replying!
agh right I see, I kept him off nursery for a week initially but then we've had to go back to work.
nursery seem very supportive I'm just worried as he was doing fab for 4 days making it to the potty for every wee and poo, dry after naps and bed but since having to put clothes on he's having a lot of accidents and not making it to the potty much at all, I'm just worried that I've started him too early but don't want to go back to nappies either.

thank you for explaining how you did it x

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Fran92 · 18/09/2024 12:09

@Bey ah no worries, honestly we had a day or two of full regression and a wee on the couch whilst looking at me after saying they didn’t need it, I’m not proud to say I raised my voice a bit on that. Just keep going, the fact you’ve had 4 days means it’s sinking in, we’ve had the odd accident since which I believe is normal and it’s normal just can’t get to the toilet in time or difficult clothing. How old is LO?

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Bey · 18/09/2024 12:17

2 and a bit, so young I know but he was showing signs and he's very verbal so decided to just go for it!

I swing between thinking this is going well we've done the right thing and agh have I set him up for failure by starting too young. Nursery agreed he seemed ready too when I mentioned it and as long as I send lots of spare clothes in they're happy to keep going it's just mum guilt!!

how old was your lo when you started? Oh yes the odd accidents normal until they're 6 or 7 I'd say. I wouldn't sweat the odd accident x

Anisty · 18/09/2024 12:26

Give up all of you struggling with kids under 2 yr 7 months!

Speaking from only my own experience and no scientific evidence at all lol (but i do have 5 kids now all adult) the magic age is 2yr 7 months IF they are up to speed with speech and language.

At that age, comprehension and bowel and bladder maturation seem to develop well enough to skip the potty stage and understand this:

"See these special sweeties? You will get one each time you wee in the toilet and two if you poo!"

I told mine that, kept them bare bottomed day one but didn't watch like a hawk or keep reminding - they just understood the system right away.

We stayed housebound day 2 with underwear on. And i think day 3 or 4 we were fully trained and job done.

I did get special sweets though that were put up high out of reach between times. It is just so much easier when you can explain and they get it.

Bey · 25/09/2024 10:27

Just an update incase anyone's going through the same thing day 16 seems to be the magic number, little ones started telling us now when clothed and only having 1 accident if at all a day now glad I kept going!