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Really need some advice

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Rachaelc1981 · 25/11/2023 10:59

Hi, I really need some advice. Not wanting or needing to be judged just need some help please.
My 8 year old son still wears a nappy for bed. He won’t try for a poo on the toilet and holds it in for days on end until his body forced him to go and when he does go he passes an extremely large poo. 9/10 he waits for a nappy until he goes. He’s completely not bothered about wearing a nappy (it’s just the norm to him) he quite often lies and says he hasn’t gone when it’s obvious he has (smell) I’ve tried all the encouragement, rewards, treats, extra time on iPad, telling off etc nothing is working. He is home schooled but he still has slight ‘smears’ in his underwear during the day so I can’t send him back to school incase he is bullied. I’m struggling by to find nappies that comfortably fit him and I’m so sick of cleaning a 8year olds bum. I’ve tried giving him movicol so his body gets used to going through the day but obviously I can’t keep him on that
Has anyone got any advice please?

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frenchnoodle · 25/11/2023 11:55

No one should see his pants at school so no one will bully.

At 8 I'd probably let him have the nappy but make him sit on the toilet to poo, have him clean himself up and shower, only minimally assist him.

The important thing is that he goes, the next thing is making him as independent as possible with cleaning.

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Rachaelc1981 · 25/11/2023 15:36

frenchnoodle · 25/11/2023 11:55

No one should see his pants at school so no one will bully.

At 8 I'd probably let him have the nappy but make him sit on the toilet to poo, have him clean himself up and shower, only minimally assist him.

The important thing is that he goes, the next thing is making him as independent as possible with cleaning.

Thank you for your reply, I’m worried incase he smells at school if he has an accident. I haven’t tried him cleaning himself, think I will try that thank you

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frenchnoodle · 27/11/2023 14:57

Good luck!

Quitelikeit · 27/11/2023 15:02

Each time he poops he needs to shower?

What does he really love? A reward each time he poops on the loo

in the Xmas holidays go hell for leather with the movicol - get him used to going regularly- prepare him for this plan - in the weeks leading up to it

Look into stooL withholding

Sadly I have experience

houmus and smoothies are great for encouraging BMs. Do them on Friday eve to try and get the bowels moving on a weekend

Quitelikeit · 27/11/2023 15:03

Usually related to anxiety - does he have access to the disabled toilet at school? So he can sit in peace. Also is he scared of pooping? There are books he can read too

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Rachaelc1981 · 02/12/2023 11:35

Quitelikeit · 27/11/2023 15:03

Usually related to anxiety - does he have access to the disabled toilet at school? So he can sit in peace. Also is he scared of pooping? There are books he can read too

He’s home schooled so has all the privacy he needs being at home. He’s always had issues with pooing. When he was a newborn he needed movicol and gel capsules to be insert to soften his stools, he used to bleed as a baby.

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