Night training - when/ where to start

[AliasGrape]

DD is 3 (and 3 months).

We potty trained last Christmas - so around 2.5, sort of led by her really and all quite straightforward (cracked wees pretty much immediately, found poos a bit trickier but that was sorted in a couple of weeks). Few accidents when she started school nursery in September but fine again after about a week.

She's nowhere near dry at night though - still wears pull ups for bed (we call them nighttime knickers I can't remember why now!) and they are always absolutely soaked in the morning. She'll wet if she ever has a longer nap in the day too - though that doesn't happen often.

I've no problem with it, am just working on the assumption she's not ready and not in any panic to change it, but I know several of her little friends who potty trained later than her went almost immediately to being dry and night and I'm wondering if I've missed a trick somewhere or I should be doing more to help her with it?

I kind of thought at some point it would just kind of happen by itself - but now I'm doubting myself - did that happen for you or do you have to 'train' them somehow at night too?

It will happen naturally. One of mine was in nappies for 2y after was potty trained and it just happened- nappies were dry at night. Don't stress about it!

You cannot train to be dry at night, it’s biological. So no point in trying until she’s ready

You can't night train. Just keep them in pull ups at night until they're dry. DD was in pull ups at night until she was 5 and a half. DS was dry at night a couple of weeks after he potty trained at 3.

I had one who night trained himself at the same time as day training and one who was in nappies for 3 years after day training. It will happen. Don't worry.

Don't try and train at night. DD was potty trained at 2.5 and just went dry by her own accord at 4. We've had 1 accident since and it's been almost 2 months. Friends who tried to night train had absolute nightmares with constant bed wetting.

As a previous poster has said, night time dryness is biological. Until they are naturally producing vasopressin to stop urine production at night they won't be dry.
My first child was dry day and night by the time he turned three. My second child is still not dry at night at 10 and we are under the eneuresis clinic.

GPs won't refer for help with this unless they are still wet overnight at age 7.

Thanks all - that’s reassuring to know. I think I kind of did know that it’s biological, but then I start doubting myself!

You don’t, it’s hormonal.

DC wore pull ups at night until they were dry for a few months. Then stop. No one wants to be messing around with pissy bedsheets and a grumpy child.

There are ways to help it along like limiting drinks after supper, lots to drink during the day to increase bladder capacity, no blackcurrant and a wee before getting ready for bed with another one to ‘check’ right before going to sleep. However, that’s all going to be futile if she’s not yet producing the necessary hormone (vasopressin which tells the kidneys not to make as much urine when you’re asleep). The fact that she isn’t consistently dry through a nap and pull ups are always soaked suggests that she isn’t. 4 is the average age for this so I really wouldn’t worry yet.

Ds1 is 7 and still wet 3/4 nights a week (we've actually realised he wets around 5am when the neighbour goes out to work, waking him slightly when they start their car, if we catch him and get him to the loo he can be dry, he just doesn't wake up fully)

Ds2 is 3 and dry every night.