3yo and potty trained but keeps on having accidents just at home!

[MWS1616]

Hoping to find someone who's been through something similar as have exhausted all internet sources and scoured many forums but not found anything that could relate so hoping by asking a direct question someone might have had a similar experience and able to shed some light on how we can possibly tackle our situation, which is making us despair a bit 🤞🏼

So our son has been potty trained for 9 months now. Was doing really well, just a few accidents but going 5-7 full days at a time without wetting himself. But for the past couple of months, he'd be fine at nursery, the childminder's, as well as when we've been out and about but at home he just wets himself, even if we ask him if he wants to go, suggest he should go before starting anything, seeing him desperate to go but not wanting to is just driving us mad!
Especially as he says "it's OK mum, it's just an accident. I won't get wet next time." But he does and almost feels he wants to do it to get a reaction out of us, which we are trying now to avoid completely and just say to him to go get himself changed or if he refuses then he can stay wet until he wants to.
Any similarities with anyone? Any suggestions, words of wisdom to be shared??

Hi @MWS1616 sorry to jump on this post. Just wondering if you manage to resolve this as we are going through the same issue with my little boy. Wets and poos himself at home. But when we are out and about he tells us when he needs to go and he doesnt have accidents nursery.
Thanks

Hi. I am currently going through the same thing. Somebody help ;-(

Would love to connect to hopefully join powers to resolve this

So I think the difference is that he listens and follows instruction at nursery/ childminder. So if they remind him to go or see he needs it, he probably listens. I would plant the idea in his head: "You need to go to the toilet in few minutes." They always need it once you have reminded them but it takes a whileto process. Then after 2/3 mins. "It's time to go to the toilet now." If he refuses then you can certainly say he will lose a treat eg. IPad time. It's OK to wet yourself, but it's not OK to refuse to do what your parents have asked when you're 3.

Thank you. Ill try that