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Won't poo in toilet!!

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Allhailkingcharlie · 08/09/2023 18:38

Knowledgeable people in my phone. My two year old has been potty training for two months. Wees have been fabulous. Dry for naps, dry at night etc. no grumbles.
Poos however.. well he did a few on the toilet and potty. Big praise! But it was sporadic and would mainly ask for a pull up on to poo. Fine I thought this was a phase.. two months later and he's pooing on the toilet at nursery but mostly wont at home. He has started just doing it in his pants. Before it he would ask for a pull up and that would be that. Now he wont even ask and wont tell me that he needs to go. What do I do?

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LouLa7 · 10/09/2023 00:43

No advice but I'm in the same situation except my daughter has been potty trained for wees for around 4/5 months. I can't for the life of me get her to poo on the toilet or potty. She's done one in the whole time we've potty trained and will request a pull up on now. I'm just rolling with it but I'm not sure if that's the right approach or not. Sorry I can't be of more help but just wanted to say you're not alone x

Winteriscoming12 · 10/09/2023 01:36

Both DD and DS were like this, in different ways. DD was dry day and night before 3, but for a while would demand a pull up for a poo. As she was under a doctor for bowel-related issues anyway, the doctor told us to roll with it, we did, and eventually she just decided to start using the loo. Never looked back.

As a result, with DS, we just let him lead for a while though eventually I did introduce the Poo goes to Pooland app to try to encourage him to use the loo. He backslid for a bit, wanting to use a pull up, but eventually went back to the loo. He did have a phase recently of hanging on too long and going in his pants, but that seems to have stopped after a few months.

2 is tiny really, in fact pretty impressive he is so far along, OP. If he likes wearing pants maybe tell him he will have to go back to pull ups full time if he doesn't tell you when he needs to go so you can put one on him, if you think he is able to understand that?

Or if you notice there is a time he tends to go, maybe pop a pull up on him then?

Otherwise, just wait until this phase passes, and keep encouraging him to use the loo. You could try the Pirate Pete book or Poo goes to Pooland that I mentioned. It comes with impressive farting noises that most toddlers love (but can get a bit wearing when you've listened to it 50 billion times).

lilyfire · 10/09/2023 02:24

Poo goes to Poland worked so well for my toddler when lots else had failed. Really recommend it.

Tillytilly5 · 10/09/2023 05:37

Could it be a comfort thing? My DS will do wees on the toilet but will only ever poo in the potty. I think because the potty gives him a better and more comfortable position with his knees up. When he sits on the toilet his legs are out sideways which doesn't give him a good position to do a poo.

Does your boy have a choice of where he goes? Might help to bring the potty back?

TheBarbieEffect · 10/09/2023 06:26

Once you take nappies away you need to actually commit and take them away for good (except nighttime - nighttime dryness is hormonal).

Because you didn’t commit and gave him the pull up you told him nappies were optional, so of course he’s always going to take that option.

It’s going to be harder now than if you’d just done it when you started but you just need to be consistent and remove nappies entirely.

If that leads to accidents, so be it. That’s how they learn. You just strip it back to basics.

BeverlyBrook · 10/09/2023 07:23

It's probably your toilet! I bet at nursery they have teeny toilets. Try a toilet seat insert that he can hold on to to feel more secure

Allhailkingcharlie · 10/09/2023 13:31

We've got Pooland and he loves it. He always wants to put the poo in the toilet to send it off to poo land. It's the fact he goes at nursery and not at home which is odd but maybe it is the tiny toilet?

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Goodornot · 16/09/2023 11:12

Offer him a potty again?

hdbs17 · 16/09/2023 11:15

DS didn't like going in the toilet or potty for a while, he seemed to get very stressed out by it but was happy to wee.

We tried to make it fun by putting him on the toilet when we knew he'd started going - and then going "oooh plop!" when he'd eventually done it (we did have to wait for the right time to sit him on the loo to make sure he was definitely going to go).

He started to find it funny and then it didn't seem like an issue for him.

choochooallaboard · 16/09/2023 21:09

@hdbs17 thank you. I'll try that.
@Goodornot we have the potty out all the time.

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