Problems with potty training

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DS is 2 years, 9 months and is going into the preschool room at nursery on Monday. We’ve been trying to get him interested in the potty, but while he’ll sit on it he hasn’t yet had a wee. He does respond to peer pressure though.

I got some special pants and a travel potty but he just doesn’t seem to ‘get it.’ He doesn’t say if he needs a wee and when he sits on the potty doesn’t really seem to get it (although I think he does!)

I don’t know if anyone has had this - maybe it’s just not the right time but he’s 3 in December so I suppose I’m wondering when he’ll be ready!

Once he’s done that first wee he’ll understand what it’s for and it will click. It took my son a while.
some kids are ok with the oh crap method others take longer.

stay in nappy pants, every time you go the loo take him. We had a little toilet potty so my son was copying me.

Rather than “do you need a wee?” Try “let’s go have a wee/poo” or “time for the toilet/potty”
he’ll get there.

My son did his first pee in the potty at the end of Jan. poop feb and by March was in pants at just turned 3. Every child is different though

I am pretty confident he knows what it’s for, it’s just there’s no inclination to use it! I suppose what I mean is he’s just using his underwear as a nappy and doesn’t seem bothered by this.

Sorry to bump my own thread but I really feel I need guidance here! I know in a years time I’ll probably read through this again and think ‘oh, chill out you stupid woman!’ but I am a bit concerned with the complete lack of interest or engagement with the process. Is this normal for this age group? I keep reading that in the good old days children were toilet trained much earlier.

Boys typically take longer than girls, IME. Not because they aren't physically or mentally ready as such, but because they have less inclination to make their lives harder when up until that point a nappy has worked perfectly fine for them 🤷‍♀️

DS showed no interest at all at that age, and I fretted and fretted about it, particularly when nursery continued to push the line that 2-3 was the "potty training age". But in the end I just decided to wait a while and at just after turning 3, we ditched the nappies overnight and he was dry by day 2. No more than a handful of accidents since.

Thanks @Bookish88 . It does seem boys train later. I thought being in wet pants would be an incentive but he didn’t seem remotely bothered by it. I guess my main worry if I’m honest is being judged as a lazy parent, which I do stress about although I know I shouldn’t.

I have 3 children my eldest DD didn't train until a couple of months before turning 4. We tried a few times and she didn't get it at all. In the end we let her be naked in the garden for a few days over summer with a potty close to hand. The first day was awful and she never had another wee accident after, poo was another story!! My middle DD trained herself just after she turned 2 by copying her sister.

My DS has just potty trained this summer, he'll be 3 in November. I tried him straight in underwear and he didn't get it at all, again we left him bottomless for a day or two with lots of potty around and he got the hang of it really quickly. He took a while to get the hang of underwear as he'd have an accident everytime I put them on him so we let him go without and he's just about got the hang of it now 🤞