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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Potty training at nursery

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Pottymouthmama · 14/08/2023 21:18

DS is 2 years and 10 months. He's been getting on well at home with potty training over the last couple of weeks but with plenty of prompting and usually he likes some privacy.

He's in nursery a lot of the week and has had no success whatsoever and I am spending every evening cleaning 6+ outfits. I expected a bit of this but not to this extent.

When they tell me he's just had accidents all day, they laugh. I've expressed that i'm a bit frustrated by this and they blame all the distractions at nursery. I just don't see what I can do.

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TropicalTrama · 14/08/2023 21:23

I have no idea on the laughing, could be trying to be breezy about it maybe?

But what are they doing there and how does it compare to home? Toilet or potty? Are they waiting for him to initiate (clearly isn’t happening) or are they taking him regularly? DS’s nursery had another 2 training at the same time, which is how they like to do it, and they all go together every hour for encouragement and to not feel like they’re missing out.

Thelondonone · 14/08/2023 21:36

It’s too early and you are prompting too much at home. Nursery did it for me (was January and I wasn’t arsing a round at home). They are correct-sorry.

Thelondonone · 14/08/2023 21:38

If he isn’t feeling the need to go then you are fighting a losing battle. Taking a child all the time isn’t really ‘training’. They need to feel the urge and, sadly, act upon it.

NuffSaidSam · 14/08/2023 21:39

If he's having accidents all day after a couple of weeks of potty training, something has gone wrong.

Is he trying to stay dry? Or is he basically just acting like he has a nappy on unless you specifically take him to the toilet?

PlainJanePerfect · 14/08/2023 21:42

DS, who also potty trained young, was fine at home but took a while at nursery. There is a lot of distractions and if none of his friends stop play to potty it's easy to forget.

I'd talk to him every morning on the way there:
Where do we pee pee- potty!
Not?- in our pants!

It got easier when he stopped being the first and only one toileting. When he moved from older toddler to preschool (which is comparably chaotic) he back tracked a bit. We had 2 days of 4 accidents which is a record- so much so we had him tested for uti.

He's been in the preschool room a few weeks and has one or no accidents most days. He turns 3 in Nov.

Be patient and keep the laundry going. I recommend throwing all the nursery kit in the bathtub for a rinse before you wash it with your own stuff!

PlainJanePerfect · 14/08/2023 21:50

DS was poo from 16m at home and 18m at nursery. Pee was a little bit after 2. Nursery encouraged it as he was already ahead with poos and it was easier for the toddler room leader to start with one kid and then others followed. He definitely had an audience in the early days which he thought was great! You know your kid (and yourself and your patience). Don't let anyone tell you its too early if it isn't.

jannier · 15/08/2023 12:41

Does he ask at home or are you still telling him? How long is he waiting for it should be over an hour.

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Pottymouthmama · 15/08/2023 18:16

On Sunday night he said 'try the potty' and went. He's also telling staff he's going/gone when it's too late.

I do prompt a lot, but when we're out of the house for sometimes 2 hours, he stays dry. Has a mix of dry and wet nights.

I think they probably ask if he wants to go which is almost always a 'no' but I say 'come on, let's try the potty now' and he's very compliant.

They've asked today if we want to continue which is a bit disheartening. Going back to nappies would feel like a backwards step and an undoing of the work we did when I had a few days off work with DS just focusing on this.

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TropicalTrama · 15/08/2023 18:26

Asking is pointless, if they’re not desperate at that exact moment then it’ll always be no. I would have thought nursery staff would know better. You need to ask them to take him every hour until the accidents decrease and then gradually increase the interval. Nursery is different to at home with more distractions, other kids that may take the toy he was playing with and activities will continue whilst he’s in the loo so he misses out. So really it’s normal for it to take longer for him to self initiate there compared at home where it all stops and waits for him.

Overthebow · 15/08/2023 18:30

It might just be a bit early for him to be doing it at nursery. Every child is different and is ready at different times. At home with you taking him is a different situation.

frenchnoodle · 15/08/2023 21:28

I would use nappies at nursery and keep things relaxed at home by continuing as you are. Don't risk making it a power battle.

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