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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Oh crap! Potty training - HELP

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mango0101 · 09/08/2023 20:13

Just started today and my daughter just doesn't want to wee on the potty - I've been watching her like a hawk - grab her and run her to the potty when she starts weeing or I can see that she's about to... she literally stops as soon as I put her on the potty and fights to get up.. but then will have another little wee once she's walked off again.. please help and advise x

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LapinR0se · 09/08/2023 20:14

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Whattheflipflap · 09/08/2023 20:15

Do you need to PT Right now? She sounds anxious could you just put a nappy on for a week or 5 or whatever then try again.

Belltentdreamer · 09/08/2023 20:16

It’s day one… it’s all a learning curve

devildeepbluesea · 09/08/2023 20:16

Yeah, are you sure she’s ready? How old is she?

PurBal · 09/08/2023 20:16

Is DD ready to potty train?

Ohshitiveturnedintomymother · 09/08/2023 20:17

Sounds like she isn’t ready. Nappies back on, relax and wait for her to show initiative to do it.
you don’t need ‘methods’, wait til your kid is ready and it’s a doddle, none of this not leaving the house for days etc

continentallentil · 09/08/2023 20:18

It’s quite a weird concept to start

Can you crouch down and use it so she can see (regularly for a few days I am afraid). I am assuming you’ve taken her nappy off so weeing in that isn’t an option.

Also bribery - mine liked me blowing bubbles for them (a sitting on the potty only treat) and rewards like stickers and chocolate buttons.

continentallentil · 09/08/2023 20:18

… try it for a week or two and if it doesn’t take then give it a while.

Amblesidebadger · 09/08/2023 20:20

I tried this and persevered for way too long. I gave up and tried again in a few months and it was cracked easily. Wish I'd abandoned attempt 1 sooner.

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mango0101 · 09/08/2023 20:24

Thanks for all your replies. Was hoping someone was going to tell me this is what happens with this method... I've read so many reviews saying that this method really does work... I so want it to work 😭😭😭😭 I'll try again tomorrow and see how we get on... xx

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yikesanotherbooboo · 09/08/2023 20:29

Does she understand? Does she want to get out of nappies? I tried with DC1 when they only had vague understanding and it was agonising. We did get there but it wasn't instant; with DCs 2&3 I waited until they understood quite clearly what 'wearing pants' would mean. They were reliable straight away with very few accidents.

pinkandredflowers · 09/08/2023 20:40

How old is she? I tried a couple of months ago and it was a complete nightmare - wee everywhere!! I was so worried as really thought she was capable but we just couldn't get it and it was so stressful.

Kept seeing people say if it's hard try again in a few weeks/months.

Tried again last weekend (she's now 2.5) and she picked it up immediately, only 2 accidents that weekend. She is finding it a bit harder at nursery as is distracted but I reckon 80-90% of the time she tells us and makes it to the potty/toilet in time which I'm pretty happy with. If still hard in another day, I'd defo recommend pausing and trying again a bit later.

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mango0101 · 09/08/2023 20:47

She is almost 26 months... definitely understands that she needs to do a wee/ poo in potty - she is realising that she's weeing and does run over to me but then try's running away - but as soon as I sit her down on the potty she's wanting to get up...

She's been getting annoyed with her wet nappies for a while now - so really felt she would be ready. The oh crap potty training book seems to think that there's no doubt that she's ready... but I can't help worry/ doubt which maybe she is seeing. She starts pre school for a couple of mornings a week in about 5 weeks so was hoping to have it down by then xx

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Dinneronmybfpillow · 09/08/2023 20:55

I tried Oh Crap and it didn't work for us. Drove me mad trying to do 'the right thing'. According to the book bribery won't work long term etc etc. Bollocks. Choc button for a successful wee on the potty and we were done in 48 hours. Two bags of buttons in a clear box. When they were gone they were gone. DD accepted this no problem

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mango0101 · 09/08/2023 21:01

Do you all think dd age is appropriate? 26 months almost? X

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AnotherCountryMummy · 09/08/2023 21:04

Oh crap didn't work for us either. I wasted my whole Easter weekend chasing DS round with the potty. It gave him the initial idea and we slowly built on that over the next few months. He's still not fully there, but we are making good progress. I found the whole method really stressful and have no idea how it could work in just a few days. Good luck.

Ohshitiveturnedintomymother · 09/08/2023 22:09

26 months is very young. I’m presuming she is your first? There’s always a feeling of having to rush things/keep up with others etc with your first.

I’d say that for girls it’s usually about 2.5-3 and a bit later for boys for some reason.

mummybear247 · 09/08/2023 22:09

mango0101 · 09/08/2023 21:01

Do you all think dd age is appropriate? 26 months almost? X

She sounds like she's not ready so if it was me I would put the nappies back on and give it some more time x

WandaWonder · 09/08/2023 22:11

Our child went when they wanted too why does it have to be a thing? If there is no other development or other issues that is just leave them to it

QuiltedHippo · 09/08/2023 22:17

What happens if you hold her over the toilet? Or use a toilet seat? Is it just the potty that scares her?

idontknow54789 · 09/08/2023 22:18

Going against the grain here - I did this method with my two and worked brilliantly. If it's still early days don't worry too much - just watch like a hawk for a few days. 26 months is still quite young though but still fine. I might just be the exception though, two DCs is a small sample size - just keep trying I'd say.

Rainallnight · 09/08/2023 22:18

mummybear247 · 09/08/2023 22:09

She sounds like she's not ready so if it was me I would put the nappies back on and give it some more time x

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Oh Crap pushes this early thing and it didn’t work for us at all. Very frustrating and annoying for all concerned.

KylieKangaroo · 09/08/2023 22:22

My youngest is the same age and she is not ready at all. I think pushing it will have an adverse effect so I'm going to wait until she shows signs of being ready! My eldest was about 2 and a half and got it straight away.

Mischance · 09/08/2023 22:22

I used bribery - worked a treat. With my third there were two older sisters who devised a system of one jelly tot for a wee and two for a poo. Canny third child worked out that if she released the poo slowly and came back to do the rest later she got more jelly tots!

To start with they need some sort of incentive to be bothered to stop what they are doing and go to loo rather than wee in nappy.

pinkandredflowers · 10/08/2023 12:03

mango0101 · 09/08/2023 21:01

Do you all think dd age is appropriate? 26 months almost? X

First time I tried was this age and failed! Returned to nappies within 24 hours. Tried again at nearly 30 months and it's been so easy I almost couldn't believe it!

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