5 year old boy dry at night

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Hello all my DD has just turned 5 and still wears nappies at night. Potty trained since she was 3, had the occasional accident in the day when she is engrossed in playing. I don't think it's a problem that she's not dry at night and am happy for her to wear nappies for now.

Had a friend to stay this weekend who brought her daughter who is 6 months older. Getting ready for bed together I went to put my DD's nappy on and the other little girl made fun of my DD and my friend the mum also made a big deal about it saying she shouldn't / didn't need it and saying that's what babies have etc

Obviously this made my DD quite upset and she then said she wanted to sleep with no nappy. Anyway got it sorted in the end and she wore her nappy and all was good.

Annoyed my friend said anything in front of DD and caused the upset but now she's been messaging me about bed mats and other products which will help my DD train to be dry at night.

Now Iike I said for me this isn't an issue, my DD is very small for her age, as I was and as I grew older I hit milestones miles later than my peers, still growing at age 19, didn't start my periods until 17 always small and slim so in my mind our genetics just mean we develop a bit slower than other people.

When my daughter wakes up we maybe have a dry nappy once every couple of weeks but I wouldn't say more than that, so for now I know if I said no more nappies at night she would be wetting the bed every night possibly multiple times a night.

Should I make the change and start taking away nappies at night or wait a bit longer as I know it can be hormonal and wait for more frequent dry nappies in the morning before going nappy free at night?

It's hormonal so there is nothing you can do about it really.
However, it probably was a bit unwise to put the nappy on your dd in front of the other child so maybe in future do that in private.

They had already stayed a few nights and gotten changed together after having a bath together and then sleeping in the same bed even tho we had two separate beds for them initially, but yes in future I will put her nappy on in private

It's fine OP and your DD is well within the normal age range. Your friend's DD is normal too - it's one of those things that varies a lot!

My son had pull ups at night until he was around 7. It's normal. Like a PP said, it's hormonal. Gradually his pull-ups were less wet and then he became dry by himself. Like your girl, he was dry in the day long long before nighttime! She will get there in her own time. X

The other parent was really rude and ignorant. Night time dryness is not the same as potty training. You can encourage them to get up to go to the loo etc but you can't train them to produce the hormone

As others have said it's hormonal, taking away the nappies will just result in bed wetting because she is not ready. Children are dry at night any time between 2 and 7. If they are over 7 then you can contact the GP for help. My children have had friends over for sleepovers who have brought pull ups and they get changed in the bathroom. Not that my children would care, I think the issue here is the reaction from your friend. Maybe educate her and let her know it's completely normal.

Your "friend" sounds like just the sort of person who caused misery to countless generations of children in the past - like the Matron at DH's prep school who made boys who wet their beds have a cold bath and bullied them. I had hoped we were long past that now.