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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Only pooing in pull up

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WilbursWinnie · 21/07/2023 19:02

Help!

Our DS has been potty trained for wees for a year. However we can't crack poos. He absolutely refuses to poo on the potty or toilet.

He saves his poos for the evening and will poo when we put him in a pull up. He's not dry at night so we can't ditch them for nighttime.

How do you crack this? He absolutely point blank refuses to even try the potty/toilet and I just don't see it resolving.

Has anyone been in the same situation and resolved it?

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Jazzybean · 21/07/2023 19:11

Fun new toys for whilst on the potty/toilet only
Blowing bubbles on the potty
Poo goes to Pooland app
Poo song from Get Well Soon
If he poos in the nappy, get him to empty it into the toilet and flush it himself, and clean up/wipe himself
Has he had constipation? Getting enough fibre? Hydrated enough?
Try sitting on the potty in the nappy if needs be, and gradually work towards removing the nappy by moving to sitting on the nappy with the tabs undone/sides cut open, cutting it to make the pieces of nappy in the potty smaller and smaller etc.
Have a look at the Eric website as well…

Aug12 · 21/07/2023 19:11

about 6 month ago I could of written that myself, my 5 yr old has only just mastered pooping on the toilet (not through lack of trying!) I ran out of pull ups one day and only had normal nappies.. so he needed a poop and I said ok but you will either have to use toilet or a nappy.. he chose the toilet. So for the next few weeks I said the shops didn’t have any pull ups in stock and switched him to ‘pyjama pants’ from Huggies for bedtime and so he kept going to the loo for his poops.

Aug12 · 21/07/2023 19:14

Just to add, my wee one is on the autistic spectrum and we tried EVERYTHING. From pooland apps, trying all the health visitors advice, reading books about it, playing games with his teddies ‘popping on the loo’ reward charts, blowing bubbles whilst sitting on toilet to try and help him relax.. nothing worked.

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WilbursWinnie · 21/07/2023 19:36

Thanks @Jazzybean. Unfortunately we have tried those suggestions with no success. We've done bubbles, special toy - that resulted in sitting on the potty / toilet for ages but it doesn't result in anything.

He's read lots of books and watched all the apps to no avail.

When he clearly needs a poo, he gets very upset if we try to get him to do it in his pull up while sitting on the potty/toilet. He just will not do it.

He hasn't been constipated and has a good diet of fruit, veg, water etc

When I tried to say we didn't have any pull ups he just withheld the poos. I was worried about him holding them too long so gave him a pull up in the end. He has had a few accidents at nursery, but not recently.

I'm at a loss.

That's heartening that you had success @Aug12 .

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truthhurts23 · 21/07/2023 19:37

my dd has been withholding/constipation issues for years, she has SEN though
she also used to like pooing in the pull up
so i just stopped buying them one day around the time she was starting nursery
at first she did have over night accidents but it didnt matter because we had a mattress protector
i also made sure she did a final wee before bed

without the pull up she had no choice but to sit on the potty,
sometimes when i was desperate for her to poo, i would put paper on the floor and allow her to squat and poo on that
for some reason that was the most comfortable and natural for her

i kept putting her on the potty after meals , for around 5-10 minutes and gave her the ipad to distract her
then soon after starting nursery, i threw away the potty and followed the same routine on the toilet
i bought her those soft rubber child seat rings to sit on and one of those foot stools to keep her in the pooing postion

so i would just stop the pull ups completely , even if she does have accidents , she will stop eventually

roses2 · 21/07/2023 19:38

My DS was 2.5 when he was potty trained. Did his wee in the toilet but insisted in only shutting in a pull up until 5.5. I tried everything and gave up in the end and just left it to him until he was ready.

he would go to the cupboard and get the pull up himself when he needed a shit.

truthhurts23 · 21/07/2023 19:44

try keeping his poo soft too because it will be harder for him to hold on to the poo and he will have no choice but to use the toilet because the urge will be strong

i used this stuff

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WilbursWinnie · 21/07/2023 19:46

@roseroses2 - my ds will get the pull up himself and put it on himself too.

How did you end up stopping using the pull ups in the end? Did they just decide to?

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WilbursWinnie · 21/07/2023 19:47

Thanks @truttruthhurts23 - maybe I should have another try and just stick to it.

Did you have loads of overnight accidents?

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Notmygreen · 21/07/2023 19:55

WilbursWinnie · 21/07/2023 19:02

Help!

Our DS has been potty trained for wees for a year. However we can't crack poos. He absolutely refuses to poo on the potty or toilet.

He saves his poos for the evening and will poo when we put him in a pull up. He's not dry at night so we can't ditch them for nighttime.

How do you crack this? He absolutely point blank refuses to even try the potty/toilet and I just don't see it resolving.

Has anyone been in the same situation and resolved it?

How old is him? My sons were fully trained at 3 but before that was difficult to make them poo in the potty

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WilbursWinnie · 21/07/2023 19:58

He's nearly 4

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Worriedmum107 · 21/07/2023 20:07

I've got this problem too with my youngest. I can't even tell you her age, it's embarrassing. At an absolute loss. No SEN or suchlike.

truthhurts23 · 21/07/2023 20:25

WilbursWinnie · 21/07/2023 19:47

Thanks @truttruthhurts23 - maybe I should have another try and just stick to it.

Did you have loads of overnight accidents?

surprisingly no, she only had a few wee accidents before she started being dry but then she was always good at wees,
i dont think she ever had a poo accident in bed , but she would do the crossing legs thing and it got abit messy sometimes , was wiping her constantly but thats more of a constipation issue
its easier to stop buying the pull ups, because it saved money and she couldnt ask for them anymore because i would just say they are gone , also for me i couldnt just take the easy way out and give her the pull up

RandomMess · 21/07/2023 20:27

Switch to nappies as the clean up is easier. Then chill, he's used to doing a poo standing up. He's only 3 not 13.

The more tense he is due to your stress about the more of an issue it can become.

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