Potty regression???

[Hanburn1]

Mumma in need of some reassurance and advice please 😫😫😵‍💫😵‍💫🤯🤯🤯

We started potty training 3 weeks ago- after my son went for a spontaneous wee on the potty. Since then it went amazing, I started with keeping nappy on for out the house for the first few days until the “oh crap”book arrived. Then we did full naked days at home & nappy on our school run but no accidents. Then once we completed naked days (about a week and half in) we progressed to block 2 and very quickly we was able to go out for some time with no accidents- 3 full days Infact of full outings as was partners bday weekend where he did no accidents and everything on the potty. started to think last Monday (10th) we would start pants under clothing as he seemed to be smashing it! But didn’t get that far as bam out of no where we hate going on the potty for a wee. I can’t sit him on there to “try” for a wee cause he’ll resist. He’ll wee on their but once he’s already started his wee.. we wasn’t even doing this before? Now we’ve had a full week nearly of this (taking back to block 1) and I don’t know what’s happened? he’ll say ”poopoo” everytime he goes and goes on the potty but it’s like we’ve gone right back to even how he ever was with wee. He even wakes up dry from 11/12 hours sleep! So I know he’s understanding the not wee in the nappy part. I feel really deflated, I’ve cried actual tears and I would love some help and advice please 🙏🏽 not sure if worth trying pull ups?? I can’t put my life on hold to stay in and do millions of naked days as I have an older son. He totally gets poo and is totally comfortable to sit on the potty once he’s already started weeing.. he is 17.5 months old

Under 18m is quite young really. My dd also trained young (not as young as yours, more like 2y2m) but I think you need to accept that quick, intensive methods like No Crap only work for older toddlers like 2.5-3.5y. That might not be official advice but it's true in the kids I've seen. If you start earlier it takes longer and is more gradual. With my dd it was very much a gradual process of building up potty use over several months.

Oh Crap I mean, not No Crap! We had a couple of books like that and binned them because dd wanted to start early and we could see it would have to be gradual.

Thankyou for your response. Yes he is very young, only reason we’ve rolled with it is due to him taking a wee on the potty all by himself. He is very advanced for his age. He wants to poo in the potty and understands the feel of this before it actually happens with enough time to get himself there, and wee he was the same with but it’s just stopped all of a sudden for wee and I don’t understand what happened🤯. I potty trained my eldest (mum of 2) 10 years ago at 18/19 months and again was very advanced for his age but back then was a lot younger myself and didn’t need to follow things. We used the straight to pants method, which worked and by 21 months was fully dry always. I felt like I wanted and needed more of a guide this time round.

Do you have advice for gradual?

Curiosity about the potty doesn't signal total readiness for training. Dd had the same. It just meant she was willing to use the potty once or twice a day but we kept the nappies on for a good couple of months more. The nursery advised the same and it worked perfectly.

If what you're doing now is driving you to tears, it's not working for the family. I suggest you put the nappies back on and just offer the potty a couple of tines a day, increasing the frequency gradually.

Thankyou for your response. Yes he is very young, only reason we’ve rolled with it is due to him taking a wee on the potty all by himself. He is very advanced for his age. He wants to poo in the potty and understands the feel of this before it actually happens with enough time to get himself there, and wee he was the same with but it’s just stopped all of a sudden for wee and I don’t understand what happened🤯. I potty trained my eldest (mum of 2) 10 years ago at 18/19 months and again was very advanced for his age but back then was a lot younger myself and didn’t need to follow things. We used the straight to pants method, which worked and by 21 months was fully dry always. I felt like I wanted and needed more of a guide this time round.

Yeah, I'd keep the nappies on and just offer lots of "pottytunities" as they say, with light-touch praise and picture books about the potty. Be patient, it might take months, just see every potty as a bonus rather than each nappy as a problem. That's my suggestion

Will he use the toilet instead of the potty (either sitting or standing with a stool)? Some kids don't like the potty for various reasons (did he splash himself maybe)?
He does sound ready if he can hold it for so long and tell you when he's going to go.

Thankyou for your reply 😁. I’m thinking this actually. We bought a my carry potty once I felt confident we could leave the house potty training couple weeks ago and he was so excited when it came and up till whatever this is that’s happened. in wondering if I order the matching Dino seat for the toilet he might want to try that? I think he also sounds ready, especially as we was doing it all. We had daddy off last week and I’m not sure if two of us prompting him has almost annoyed him and bought out stubbornness lol! Even when he has that split second of wee on the floor before I sit him on potty to continue he’ll say “no no no” and point like he knows it’s not to go on the floor 🙈🙈. I did go last night and buy pull up training pants, which I know is against a lot of methods, and also my own brain but was thinking maybe for outside the house we use them with actual pants underneath. I thought the training pants as they look different to his actual nappies we wear to bed rather than him thinking “great I can just pee all day long in them “🤣😬. My eldest is leaving primary this week and we have lots on at school with regards to that and my biggest worry was potty training and constantly leaving areas and missing out on my eldest to do potty tries lol. I’m not sure if I’ve made the right decision, but I feel like that’s motherhood 😫🤣😵‍💫🤯 sorry for my long response haha. What fo you think xx