3yo DD not interested

[daisiesandpeonies]

DD is 3 years and 1 month. She's a very chatty and confident child, no problems communicating. She definitely knows what the potty and loo seat are for, the difference between nappies and big girl pants etc, but the issue is she just doesn't seem bothered. She has used the potty and toilet when I put her there at the right moment, but she never asks to go and rarely tells me if she needs changing.
Whenever she has her big girl pants on she just wets herself/soils herself right in front of us and doesn't flinch. Being wet doesn't upset her at all. Today she wet herself whilst eating lunch in her high chair and didn't seem to notice. Have tried charts, chocolate buttons etc. Still not bothered. I've given up and gone back to nappies yet again after today - will try again in a couple of weeks. But not sure what to do to increase her interest? Please give me some advice! Thank you

DS was exactly like this - I asked for help on here and was basically told we should have trained him sooner 🙄 Not helpful!

Honestly, perseverance was the only thing to work. We just kept going and going and going until it clicked. He's 4 now and still goes through phases where we have to constantly check if he needs to 'go'.
We had been giving DS a treat each time he used the potty but found that either he didn't care about the chocolate button or he wanted one so much that he would sit on the potty for hours trying to wee instead of learning when he needed to.
Two things that seemed to help a bit:
We changed his pants from briefs to trunks. I don't know if there are a variety of girls pants available but it might be worth checking.
We did a reward chart that was just a simple grid with stars to colour in. I bought sparkly sticky stars and stuck them every few spaces, then every five or so as the chart went on. DS got to colour in a star after each success and when he got to the sparkly star I would get a treat from the bag. These were little toys / sticker sheets from poundstretchers and occasionally chocolates from the miniature heroes tin. He clearly felt the chocolate button each time wasn't really worth it but working towards one big treat seemed too unobtainable.

I worked in a nursery with a young girl who had no interest in toilet training. Her poor parents. However one day she walked into their room with a pair of knickers in her hands and said 'I am wearing these now'. She was perfectly toilet trained from then onwards!

This is what I am hoping with my DD, and it is true, when they are ready they are ready. I could easily write your post OP. My little girl is just coming up to 3 next month and shows no interest. We have had the potty in the bathroom since she was 18 months and she knows what it's for and how we use the toilet ourselves, but she just doesn't want too.

My son didn't potty train until he was nearly 4, and what we did gain, nursery put us back by when they tried to help. But as we waited for him to be ready, we never had any accidents. I am hoping my youngest will do the same, but always been told girls potty train earlier 🤷🏻‍♀️