Night time toilet training

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Hello. Does anyone have a good idea for night time toilet training? My DD is 5 years old and can't get through the night dry. She sleeps through it. Doesn't notice s thing. I have tried making sure she goes to the loo before and after the bedtime story and still wakes up wet in the morning. Any good routine tips and ideas of how long it should take would be amazing.

There aren't really any ways to 'train' them at this age. Is she happy to wear PJ pants?

You can't really train, its hormonal. Put her in bedtime pullups or now

Watching with interest.

Not sure if we're doing the best thing but our DD (nearly 5) is just wearing normal pants with pyjama bottoms. We take her to loo before bath and then just before lights out. Then again at around 10pm for last time- we do have to drag her out of bed for that and she's half asleep (read recently that's not a good thing to do but if we don't she has no chance of making it through the night).

Just waiting for it to all change.

Many loads of sheet washing recently!

You can’t night train, just wait for her to start waking up dry. My son has just been through the same and went dry overnight at 5 1/2, it was like flicking a switch.

With a dry pull-up I mean, not saying to let her wet the bed every night!

For gods sake put the poor girl in pull ups. What is wrong with you?

I am constantly astonished at the number of parents who have no idea that children need to have started to produce the hormone that suppresses night time urine production before they can begin to be reliably dry at night. You don't night train 5 year olds FFS.

My children wet the bed past the age of 5. It tends to be hormonal. eric.org.uk/childrens-bladders/bedwetting/

Hi everyone. Thank you for the mention of the hormones. I really had no idea. After a visit to the gp several months ago they never mentioned this. Thank you. Wondered what I was doing wrong. Thank you again for all the kind responses.

My 5 year old was like this, around Christmas we bought a bed wetting alarm and tried that. Since then they have had maybe 3 wet nights, all the rest have been dry. This is a child who was wet every morning in a pull up. Yes it can be due to the hormone levels however it can also be due to their body just not learning to hold the urine as it's become a routine to go whilst they are asleep. I'd try the alarm OP, if it doesn't help them learn to wake up when they need a wee you can stop and try again in maybe 6 months.

Wet-Stop 3 Bedwetting Alarm (BLUE) 6 Alarms & Vibration, Enuresis Alarm, Incontinence, Potty Training amzn.eu/d/gPzfgaW

This is the one we used

DS1 was 5.5. We just let it play out. His younger brother had been dry at night for a year by the time he got it. There didn’t seem any point getting stressed about it. We taught him to take the nappy off, put it in a small plastic bag, give himself a wipe with a baby wipe, put that in the bag too and then the whole lot in the bin.

Thank you. Will have a look. Sounds like an idea.

We used to lift ours for a pee (still fast asleep) when we went to bed.

@Businessflake "For gods sake put the poor girl in pull ups. What is wrong with you?"

Geez thanks now I feel like shit.

I've found lots of conflicting advice on Google but I'm trying to do my best. I thought that going from 10pm-7am was going quite well for us especially as, when she was in pull ups at night, by morning mostly her pull up felt dry. I dunno- it's kind of difficult to tell due to the absorbency.

Like op, I didn't know there was a hormone but now I know.

Anyway thanks for your help.

We ended up using the therapee alarm system with our 6 year old and it was great.

There are always lots of responses about the hormone on threads like this but it’s not the only factor. Even the link above posted from the charity Eric, who are brilliant, lists it as one of 3 reason for bedwetting.

Maybe my DS would have grown out of it but we didn’t want to wait as it was impacting his confidence plus we knew sleepovers etc were on the horizon.

@HeadsShouldersKneesAndMyGreatAuntsWalkingStick don’t feel bad, we did spells with no night nappy or pull up too it’s all part of it. It’s worth calling Eric for advice we did. Wishing you luck with it all.

I have 6 year old b/g twins, my DS is dry on a night and has been for well over a year now. My DD however is still in pull ups overnight. I don't think she's even nearly ready, her pull up is soaking every morning. I'm not making a fuss, simply waiting til she does it herself, I don't even mention the soaking pull ups, in fact she wakes up, takes it off pops it in the bin and puts her pants on ready for the day. I agree with the other posters, it's not something you can train and they'll do it when they're ready.

Once 5 years old we used an bed wetting alarm - it went from a very very wet nappy every single night, to being dry every night within a couple of weeks. No accidents since and it's been months.

I came on this topic thread as I'm back to training a toddler - the worst job in parenting - but I'm in the same situation with my 5.5yo elder DD.
She does have some dry nights but it's usually if she's been awake late or woken in the night and I've encouraged her to use the toilet before resettling so it's a short night.
I'm pretty sure at this stage she is actually partially awake when she goes in the pull up - but not awake enough to actually get out of bed if that makes sense.
I'm going to remove them entirely this summer and put down puppy pads and see how it goes. She's young in her year (year one) and getting invited to sleepovers now and I've told her she needs to be free of pull-ups first.
I'll update on how it all goes.