Very resistant 3 year old!

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Hi all,
I'm hoping you may be able to give me some pearls of wisdom about how to help potty train my DD. She is 3 next month and has always been very resistant to the idea of potty training. As soon as I get the potty out, she starts screaming and crying.
I have tried sticker charts, bribing with chocolate, letting her pick her own big girl pants, books (which she loves) but she just will not engage at all with potty training.
She can hold herself for a wee and a poo if she doesn't have a nappy on so has the control but as soon as she needs one, she just starts crying and asking for a nappy. I know when she is pooping as she hides in a corner of the living room and tells me to go away.
I don't really know what else to do. Do I just leave it a few more months and hope she magically changes her mind? I'm worried that by pushing it, it will just make her more reluctant but at the same time, she has to learn at some point and I am worried that by delaying the problem, it may also cause more issues too with reluctance to change.

I have one of these too so following with interest. DS doesn't respond to any of the normal advice, knows exactly what to do but just doesn't want to engage and says he's scared of the potty or toilet. I keep telling myself that it will just click one day but I'm not sure how to go about that.

Could you possibly let her continue to go in her nappy but sit her on the toilet at the same time? My friend did that with her daughter who was ok with wees but petrified of doing a poo on the toilet. They then just gradually weaned her off needing a nappy on the toilet!

My daughter was tricky too-the only thing that worked with her was wrapping up lots of cheapy pressies and allowing her to open one when she did a poo on the toilet! X

Following with interest! My son turned three at the end of December and has resisted everything. I tried again cold turkey (pants and joggers) last weekend but he either has no idea when he is weeing or just doesn't care! Happy to sit in wee or poo and no effort to tell me he needs to go. Won't sit on the toilet or potty when I ask him too! It's driving me mad and beginning to make me feel like a bit of a failure!

I had one of these! Tried so many times and he just used to wee and most of the time didn't even tell me he had done! He was 3 and a half when he finally did it.

We decided to try 3 day potty training (there was a book on Amazon but I didn't actually buy it 🤣). On day 1 he had SIX accidents. I was already for back in nappies on day 2 but DH was home and said we should try. Been dry ever since (new year) apart from 2 accidents. Even dry during the night as well.

It will come, it just takes patience and don't try and push it if they aren't interested (he used to make himself stiff as a board if I tried to sit him on the potty!)

My DD just goes all floppy if I try and lift her on the potty, it's like trying to wrangle a slippery snake!

I'm relieved to see that others are struggling too. So many people I know take great pleasure in telling me they had theirs potty trained by 2-2.5. Makes me feel like a bit of a failure. She has been so good with everything else. Moving from a cot to a proper bed has been easy as pie, eating has been a bit tricky but on the hole she has got so much better but bloody potty training is a no go!

I have tried this but she point blank won't sit on it unless I physically man handle her which I don't want to do.

Stop trying. Your making it a big deal and it will just cause issues if you force it.

Leave the potty out in the toilet. Put nappies back on and leave everything else.

Let her see you go to the toilet. Describe what you're doing. Let her see the potty but don't call attention to it.

If she's liking the books as a story keep up with that.

Basically take all pressure off. In a few months if she seems keen try again.

There's a huge range of normal in terms of when children are ready to train. My eldest was a month away from 3 before he was ready. My youngest was just over 2.

Chilmdminder & mum of 3 here, potty trained many many kids over the years. I would actually just back right off for a few weeks. Put the potty away & forget about it. Bring it back out but just put it in bathroom & let her see it without pressure. Take her with you every time you're using bathroom, help you flush the loo etc, make a game of it & let her see it's just normal - keep it chilled all the time. She will decide herself when she's ready & trust me it's honestly easy if they decide they want to, could be done in a couple of days versus weeks/months of struggle with a child who is not ready or resisting.