How many accidents should I expect?

RedRobyn2021 · 2023-01-20T14:29:48+00:00

We started off training 3 days ago, managed to get some wees and a poo in the potty. The next day, the vast majority (9) ended up on the floor, 5 in the potty. Only one of those times did DD break off from the puzzle she was doing to go for a wee in the potty. Today, 3 wees this morning all in the potty this afternoon we have had 3 accidents. I suspect I am over prompting. Thoughts please?

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Thinkbiglittleone · 20/01/2023 14:34

How old is your DC.
What methods are you using to help teach her ?

cravingtoblerone · 20/01/2023 14:50

How old is DC? We tried at 20 months and didn't get a single wee/poo in the potty over a 3 week period. (Although DS did manage to drop a poo on my naked foot 💩😩)

Tried again 10 months later and he was fully toilet trained within 48 hours with no accidents...

When they are ready, they are ready...

Thinkbiglittleone · 20/01/2023 15:05

Our DS was 22 months and it took a 5 days and then was dry at night about 2 weeks later.
I think by stopping what she is doing, then weeing in the potty, shows she understands where her wee needs to go. So that's a positive.

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RedRobyn2021 · 20/01/2023 16:13

Thinkbiglittleone · 20/01/2023 14:34

How old is your DC.
What methods are you using to help teach her ?

She is 23 months, she's been dry at night and for naps, I've showed her myself going to the toilet, read her some books from the library, watched a couple of videos on YouTube (Peppa pig and princess polly). First 2 days we did bare bum.

We have just come back from walking the dog and as soon as we got in she weed all over the floor.

She runs to tell me she has weed or pooed, I tell her to sit on the potty as there might be more wee/poo (she doesn't ever do more wee or poo though, but I'm trying to reinforce this is where she needs to be weeing/pooing)

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Twizbe · 20/01/2023 16:16

She's not ready. Night dryness is hormone related and not taught. Ignore that for now.

Back to pull ups. Keep the potty out, let her see you wee, keep talking and try again in a few months.

When they're ready (which could be anywhere to around 3 for some kids) they will get it fast.

AliceMcK · 20/01/2023 16:17

She not even 2, chill there is no rush. As for “accidents” how long is a piece of string? Every child is different. There may be a time you think she’s cracked it and she’s completely dry, and then all of a sudden she will start having accidents again, it’s perfectly normal she will stop when she can.

ChildminderMum · 20/01/2023 16:22

Sounds like she's doing really well for only 3 days in.

Yes, expect some accidents every day for the first week. She's learning a new skill.

If you're going out already, I'd expect some accidents. I always spent the first 5 days maybe at home in a small space with the potty near by. Lots of prompting and rewards.
Get in the habit of going to the toilet every time you leave or arrive anywhere.

I've potty trained countless children over the years, and regardless of age, the ones who just 'get it' and have no accidents within a couple of days are extremely rare. For most children it's a process.

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RedRobyn2021 · 20/01/2023 16:30

Thinkbiglittleone · 20/01/2023 15:05

Our DS was 22 months and it took a 5 days and then was dry at night about 2 weeks later.
I think by stopping what she is doing, then weeing in the potty, shows she understands where her wee needs to go. So that's a positive.

She is 23 months. She has been dry at night and for naps, but it feels like there has been so many accidents.

She runs to tell me about her accident, she has been upset about the poos but just shouting to tell me about the wees "mummy mummy mummy!! Wee wee! Wee wee!" But poos get tears and shock and "yucky!!" I don't know why she calls it yucky because I have never been negative about her poo, but she says it over and over. So I told her we all poo, me, her dad, her grandma but that she needs to try to do it in the potty. And she's started repeating "mummy, daddy, nanny" after a poo accident.

We did get a big poo day 1 in the potty, but since then the last 3 have been on the floor! I just want to know if we need to persevere or if this is just not right

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ChildminderMum · 20/01/2023 16:38

Only you know what your tolerance is for persevering.

Some parents are prepared to give it a couple of weeks and accept there will be accidents.
Other parents don't want to deal with any accidents at all and would rather leave them in nappies longer in the hope that it means less accidents later (sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't - I've known 3.5 year olds be much, much harder to train than just turned 2 year olds).

Cileymyrus · 20/01/2023 16:38

If they are ready it will only take a few days.

I trained mine between 2.5 and 3. Offered a chocolate button in exchange for a wee on the toilet, and that was it.

StrawberryAnnie · 20/01/2023 16:58

No two children are the same when it comes to potty training.

There is no harm in introducing using the potty, but she might not be quite ready to train. She needs to be able to recognise when she needs to go, and doing it once is a good sign.

Keep going, but if it begins to cause her distress, see how she gets on in pull ups and try again in a few months

Littlebummybums · 20/01/2023 17:00

I did both mine at 3 and it was 48 hours. Why the rush?

stopbeeping · 20/01/2023 17:01

My son was 3 when he was potty trained but he took a few tries when I thought he was ready but he wasn't
Second born was 13 months as soon as he could walk he used the potty and he was dry the same day he used the potty I did literally nothing to help him or teach him he was like super potty boy
Third child is 10 months and not on the move yet

LegodOut · 20/01/2023 17:04

Didn't try it until 2 years 9 months and didn't have a single accident.

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RedRobyn2021 · 21/01/2023 08:25

ChildminderMum · 20/01/2023 16:38

Only you know what your tolerance is for persevering.

Some parents are prepared to give it a couple of weeks and accept there will be accidents.
Other parents don't want to deal with any accidents at all and would rather leave them in nappies longer in the hope that it means less accidents later (sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't - I've known 3.5 year olds be much, much harder to train than just turned 2 year olds).

She has more accidents yesterday, a prompted wee before bed and then she has done an unprompted wee this morning ... but she's also pooed herself.

Do you think it's worth continuing?

I'm also worried about confusing her by stopping.

I wish we had not started but now we have I keep thinking we shouldn't stop until we get there, even though I'm getting stressed.

We have been walking the dog in the afternoons because she needs to be walked, we are usually out 30-40 minutes and she's been dry every time we've got home, but yesterday she went in the living room and weed herself. It's like sometimes she doesn't recognise that she needs to go right away and her bladder just lets it all go. Then she runs to tell me (getting wee or poo everywhere)

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LightGreenDot · 21/01/2023 08:52

Does she wee reliably when you prompt her? Have you tried getting her to sit on the potty every 60/90 mins? I did this and we had very few accidents after he learned to go on demand. You do kind of commit yourself to reminding them to go at various points in the day but if you structure this round morning, before leaving the house, getting in the car, mealtimes etc it's not too onerous. Then as they get bigger you realise you need to remind them less and less.

I think I was lucky with poo that in the early stages I managed to catch him doing one and get it in the potty, then bribed him with Hotwheels when he managed to get the next one in the potty, which miraculously worked. He was just over three though, so older.

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RedRobyn2021 · 21/01/2023 10:20

LightGreenDot · 21/01/2023 08:52

Does she wee reliably when you prompt her? Have you tried getting her to sit on the potty every 60/90 mins? I did this and we had very few accidents after he learned to go on demand. You do kind of commit yourself to reminding them to go at various points in the day but if you structure this round morning, before leaving the house, getting in the car, mealtimes etc it's not too onerous. Then as they get bigger you realise you need to remind them less and less.

I think I was lucky with poo that in the early stages I managed to catch him doing one and get it in the potty, then bribed him with Hotwheels when he managed to get the next one in the potty, which miraculously worked. He was just over three though, so older.

Sometimes she will try when I prompt but other times she gets annoyed and says "no!" And then will wee/poo a few minutes later!

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Ginger1982 · 21/01/2023 18:33

Stop now. She's not ready. She's not even 2. My son was 4 when he toilet trained. He was ready and it happened literally overnight.

Sarahcoggles · 21/01/2023 20:18

She doesn't sound ready to me.
I didn't bother with potty training. Both of mine trained themselves at about age 3 by weeing the garden in the summer. Suddenly they didn't want nappies any more. Went from nappy to garden to toilet! I barely noticed it was happening. No accidents at all.