MIL is pushing potty training

[ForeverMessy456]

My DS is 2 and since he was about 14 months my MIL has been harping on at me to get him potty trained.

He was nowhere near ready and I still don't know now if he completely is.

MIL has another grand child and likes to tell me how she is potty trained well before 2 however then tells me it took months.

I don't want to put my son through months of potty training when he isn't ready.

He is showing some signs of readiness so I'm going to give it a go soon however mu worry is my MIL won't stick to the plan and my son will regress (she looks after him 2 days per week)

How do I have this conversation with her? She disregards most things I tell her such as nap times, food to give him etc.

I would say to her "by all means, feel free to give it a go when he's with you." Then ask her how he's getting on with it when he's with her.

And then you'll both have the answer.

Just tell her you're going to start in the spring, when the laundry arising from the (inevitable) accidents won't be so onerous (better drying weather, fewer layers of clothing and less heavy garments)

That should buy you a further few months.

And think about it - if she does it for you, that's brilliant!

It's harder when your mil looks after him but I had this with ds1 when do many people kept going on at me to potty train him before he was ready. I listened to them and it took nearly a year. With ds2 I ignored all the advice and started him when he was ready. He was dry in 2 weeks.

I agree with this... Unless there's any risk of confusing DS by only practising it twice a week (not at the potty training phase yet!)?

My DS is 3 in May and despite asking him, sitting him on the potty in intervals he has only weed on it a few times in the past few months.
He won't tell me he needs to go and to be honest I don't think he is ready but I hate the comments from other people like it's my fault!
You have my sympathy.. I've tried sitting ds on the potty when he refuses but all that leads to is a tantrum, he has even weed twice on the floor.
So I have come to the conclusion you can't force it and now if he says no i don't push it just ask him politely before bed, in the morning etc.