3 year old still not getting it

[Becksiv]

DD turned 3 in November just gone.
We're giving potty training a go for the third time

She shows great enthusiasm by wanting to sit on the toilet and "do a wee wee" but she's not actually going for a wee.

She's been nappy free since Tuesday, today is Sunday, and hasn't done one wee on the toilet

Her preference is the toilet over the potty

Nursery have been pressuring me to train her and ultimately told me to just send her in nappy free with lots of spares. Which I did, but I feel like they have lied to me by saying she was weeing in the toilet. Because between Wednesday til now I haven't seen it once.

She can't connect the dots and acknowledge she needs to wee, in advance to actually going.

She'll tell me when she's doing it.

Any advice please lovely people?

I think you should keep going. Don't put her back in nappies again. Mine was the same and I just stuck with it. It was exhausting, but I kept her bare bottomed and watched her like a hawk and then would put her on the potty immediately as she started peeing. I had to use the potty for this because there was not enough time to take her to the toilet.

This went on for about a week to ten days. Then I would see her holding her crotch because she'd need to go. So I started sitting her on the potty, but she'd get up without doing anything. She kept doing that for ages too. I then started letting her sit on the potty watching a video and she'd start peeing sometimes, but not always. Then one day she just said ' I need to do pee pre', walked across the room, pulled her trousers down and did a wee. I actually cried lol...

This took around 3 weeks! It's not a quick thing at all, like people say. If you keep the nappy off, it WILL happen. My DD was 2 years 10 months when I did this, so almost 3. Most of them are ' ready ' at that kind of age. You just have to stick with it. They'll not enjoy wetting their pants !! Nursery is right, it's time. Unless there are any other additional needs you haven't mentioned. Keep going !

@chiwaawa thank you! I knew deep down the answer is as you said. It was a hard day yesterday I'm struggling to keep up with the washing!!!

I was also doubting it at the time. I thought she'd just learn to pee her pants and that was it. We also tried around 3 times. You are lucky that your nursery is encouraging it. Mine did F all. They just didn't care at all about it, even though they knew I really wanted her to start learning.

I think it's something they need to learn and it takes time to learn, like everything else.

Unless perhaps you wait much much longer and then they just do it in a couple of days, but I didn't know when that moment might be and I didn't want her in nappies past 3 if possible. Good luck!

@Becksiv how are things going now ?

My LO is around the same age and we started trying in May last year and still haven't cracked it! Lots of wet clothes from nursery and at home. LO seems completely unphased by being in wet clothes and sometimes runs away and hides when I can see they need the toilet. It's very draining! Hope it gets better for you soon.