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Potty training

Is your child ready for potty training at nursery? Here's the place for all your toilet training questions.

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Potty Training almost 3 year old - He just keeps saying no!

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Irishgirl55 · 12/01/2023 15:28

Hi,

My Ds is 3 in March - I am expecting DC2 in May so would really like to get DS out of Nappies - He has on occasion done a wee or poo in the potty. I have been talking to him about it and he just keeps saying 'no' when I mention it.

I let him run around the house without a nappy on hoping he would use it - but when it came time for him to go - he kept asking for a nappy on.

Is he just not ready? If I push it, will it make it worse?

Any help would be much appreciated!

Thanks :)

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GiltEdges · 12/01/2023 15:36

I think it varies by child, but DS was a similar age when we properly committed to potty training him. We were confident he was ready, in that he understood what he needed to do, knew when he needed to go, etc. So one day we just said “no more nappies”, took them away and meant it.

I won’t lie, days 1-2 had me questioning my choice and losing my sanity, but I held firm and by day 3 there were aww re signs of improvement so we persevered. A week in he was having no accidents at all and apart from one trip out when we couldn’t get to a toilet in time, he’s never had one since.

If you think he’s ready, it doesn’t hurt to try, but he has to believe you mean it.

Chunkymonkey123 · 12/01/2023 15:40

Everyone has a different opinion but my DS1 was trained at 2. I tried with DS2 at 2.5 and he refused to go on the potty. I waited and at his third birthday he decided he was a big boy and hasn’t used nappies since, I can’t even remember any real accidents when we had them for a while with DS1. My DS2 knows his own mind and I didn’t think it was worth fighting about. I would worry about doing it before you have your second, it’s really not as hard work as people think.

Chunkymonkey123 · 12/01/2023 15:40

Wouldn’t worry sorry!

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Irishgirl55 · 12/01/2023 16:36

Thanks for the advice. More the double cost of nappies rather than the hard work haha!

My DS is quite stubborn (like his mum, don't tell DH I admitted that though). He know what he wants and doesn't. I suppose I just need to give it my full attention and just go for it! 😂😂. I may roll up my new rug!!

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Namechangedforspooky · 12/01/2023 16:39

My youngest was like this and I decided to just ignore it. One day around age 3 she just took herself to the toilet at nursery and that was it. I think some kids just need to be happy in their minds that they can do it. She has only ever had a handful of accidents

londonmummy1966 · 12/01/2023 16:41

My eldest was like this but then decided she wanted to go to nursery. Explained to her that she needed to be able to use the potty before she could go and the little madam went and used it.... Pull ups at night for a bit longer but never really looked back after that.

Beamur · 12/01/2023 16:43

My DD was similar. Could wee in a potty but was very attached to her nappy.
Tried to get her out if nappies at 2.5 years - failed. Tried again at 3, she finally clicked at nearly 3.5 years.
The final thing that pushed her over the line was one evening at bath time she was undressed and ready but the bath was still running - I think the sound of running water helped and she was desperate to have her nappy on and I gently refused (she was literally hopping about, so definitely was recognising the sensation of needing a wee) and she caved in and used the potty. She was so pleased with herself and was pretty much dry from that point. Number 2's took a bit longer.
Try giving him a drink about 20 minutes before bath time and have him near the sound of running water and see if it nudges him in the right direction.

CoffeandTiaMaria · 12/01/2023 16:47

Buy him ‘big boys pants’? That worked with DGCs, a couple of days and they’d cracked it. It took a little longer at night but only a couple of weeks. They were 2.5 years and 2 years 8 months.

CoffeandTiaMaria · 12/01/2023 16:47

Also a star chart and plenty of praise!

Beamur · 12/01/2023 16:59

I think bribery is entirely acceptable..DD was promised (and got) a scooter once she started using the potty..

MaMisled · 12/01/2023 17:09

At the end of my tether, I bought a shiny new potty and put it down in a corner of the lounge. Casually, softly, kindly I said "oh don't worry, it's not for now, it's for when you're a big boy. I know you're not big enough yet, only big, strong grown up boys know how to wee x pooh on the potty.. . etc ". I made no comments at nappy change time but there was lots of drawing attention to it, "oops! Nearly tripped over the big boys potty! " The very next day he wee'd in it x said " I'm a big boy now Mummy!" And that was it!

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