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Reception child driving me mad

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Hangingoninthere88 · 09/11/2022 19:07

She has been potty trained since just turned 2 with ease. We've had the odd setback but generally gotten on track. However, since she has started school she's been terrible. She is constantly having minor accidents and had a couple of full on wet accidents at school and she basically just doesn't seem to care. Today was a full on accident at school requiring a change of clothes. They obviously changed her but I told her as soon as I picked her up that we needed to go straight home and clean her up as otherwise her bum would get sore. We talked about why it happened and I'm constantly reminding her how important it is. However no sooner had we cleaned her up back home this pm she is dancing around the kitchen so I ask if she needs to go. She swears blind she doesn't but then wets herself again. I'm at a loss what to do. I can't win. If I give it attention then it's re-enforcing that it's a problem and a way she can get attention and it'll knock her confidence. However, how do I get through to her how unacceptable it is if she doesn't care enough herself? I try and set natural consequences for it eg earlier needing to come home instead of park but she doesn't seem to really care. I just don't know how to deal with it. It's driving me mad because if she makes a habit of it it'll start to become a problem at school. I'm trying not to be cross with her but at the end of the day it seems like this is 100% behavioural so it's so frustrating so long after I thought we'd nailed potty training. She's still not dry at night either but that's a minor issue really. Please help. Thanks

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Binjob118 · 09/11/2022 19:42

I know it's frustrating but she may not have the control over her bladder you think she does. It may worth speaking to your GP or health visitor. Also, school is a very different environment than at home and she may be scared or uncertain of going to the toilet there. The fact that she is not dry at night (quite unusual at her age) could point to a medical issue.
Definitely try to be calm and not blame her, it won't help.

Lightning88 · 14/11/2022 18:21

Hi. I had the same thing with my eldest when she started reception! And it’s also happening at the moment with my friends son who’s also started reception recently. Thankfully it stoped after the first term for my daughter, but yes, she would come home a few times a week and would have wet herself. Turns out. She didn’t like using the school toilets as she didn’t like going in there by herself for fear of missing out on something.

Maybe have a word with her teacher and ask if they can ask her a couple of times through the day to try and go the to toilet? I found that helped with our issue

starting reception can be a big deal for them so they do sometimes regress, but if it goes on much longer, always best to speak to your GP.

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